Anyone have teens that behave like this?

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I have 2 teenagers -14dd and 17ds. When they were younger I worked hard to make sure that they had nice table manners- used a knife and fork properly, cut up food properly etc. When they were on play dates people used to make comments about how polite they were and how nicely they ate. Fast forward to now and I feel like I’ve got 2 strangers in the house. Dd puts her knife in her mouth all the time and my son refuses to use a knife. They also used to speak nicely but both have got really really sloppy about how they speak. It really makes me wonder why I made such an effort to instil manners when both have them have regressed.

Mine are a bit older now. I miss these phrases. It was peng and buff at our house.

Although they are now using ‘new drip’ as in new clothes

This.

@bululu not only in the uk! We are in France and they have their own version of it !

With my 14yr old DS its all, Bro or Broski for everyone an ‚you check it‘ at the end of every sentence 😂 its hilarious… as for table manners… if thats the only issue you happen to be facing with them you got it pretty good! 😂😂

This thread is properly making me chuckle! My two aren't too bad on the whole but I also find it so cringey with all the bro and such ridiculousness like they're some kind of gangster!!!
My DD drops her 't's' in the middle of words. Alway pull her up and comment that I'm sure there are two 't's' in whatever word it is. Always met with an eye roll!

Ordnance!

Ordinance is quite something else. 👍

Ooh, that's cool. What's the French version of 'bro' and 'sick'? Do they still use verlan, or is that old hat now 😁

I barely see my 17 year old. He's either at college, at the gym or playing sport. In the summer I'll see him even less as he plays cricket both days over weekend. Matches often go on for 6-7 hours.

Pressed too soon. So hardly see him let alone hear him speak.

Bro's not eating her dinner
Bro doesn't like carrots. They're not my vibe.
Nah bro is just making room to scarf all that ice cream after.
Shut up bro. Dick.
Cue some TikTok/meme reenactment....

The dinner table is so much more peaceful when it's just husband and I.

What up my G?

Have a look at tiktok and start talking like it to them... It will no longer be cool...
I think it peaks in year 8-9 ish and usually by year 11 it will be "cringe". Its a way of distancing themselves from the family and finding their own identity.

I’m bingeing Top Boy and this thread has made me laugh so much.

🤣 this ^

Exactly the same here!! I am just biding my time and waiting for them to grow out of it

I do remember a few years back starting to use ‘my bad’ instead of ‘sorry’ (genuinely, because I was hearing it every day, not to mock) and eventually noticing it had been quietly dropped by the teens in the house!

I'm in agreement with this.

One of mine pointed out it doesn't matter how he eats, just that he eats decent food. Coming from an autistic adult who survived on 3 foods for about 6 years during childhood I realised how right he is. I don't place too much importance on how people hold their knives and forks. One persons kid is no better than another's and if anyone wants to value people in such a way that's definitely a them problem

@rainbowstardrops This! It drives me mad. My two used to speak so nicely, and now im constantly asking them to repeat words with a 't' in them. Not sure if it's better to just ignore it really......

I take comfort (and hope) in the fact that I spoke nicely as a child. As a teen that wasn't cool and I modified my accent. As soon as I was away from school I reverted back to my original style.

It's all about fitting in, hopefully they will come out the other side!

*@rainbowstardrops This! It drives me mad. My two used to speak so nicely, and now im constantly asking them to repeat words with a 't' in them. Not sure if it's better to just ignore it really......

I take comfort (and hope) in the fact that I spoke nicely as a child. As a teen that wasn't cool and I modified my accent. As soon as I was away from school I reverted back to my original style.

It's all about fitting in, hopefully they will come out the other side!*

Thankfully, my two know how to speak 'nicely' when they need to, especially my eldest. He's got a lovely way with words when he's not at home!!!

I've resorted to using Sarf London gangsta slang with DS (NB, we are white and live in the very rural North).

I deliberately use it to annoy. Nothing better than a fat middle aged white woman wishing you a 'jolly bangin' evening with your chums, blud. Hope you meet someone peng!'

I grew up in a household where speech was corrected all the time and table manner were expected and punished if they didn't happen. I grew up in Norfolk surrounded by people with a norfolk accent and my dad was a cockney.
My ds18 has a better speaking voice than me and table manners. He also occasionally uses American words, even then the most I say is 'we're english'.
And I can't be arsed to get all upset about how he speaks uk english as long as he speaks.

Sounds like every teenager in the world. My DS only stopped being feral at 22 Perfectly normal now at 40 😂

Oh, i'm trying this. My well spoken 16yo has recently morphed into Poundshop Gangster and it's driving me nuts. We live in the Cotswolds 😂 Gently requesting she stop calling her sisters 'muthas' and eating with her chin practically on the table - with one leg stuck out, big bollocks style - is falling on deaf ears

Teens gonna teen.

they’ll grow out of it!

My 12 year old came downstairs last night and asked us to ‘check ma new drip bro’

It made me laugh because his ‘drip’ was some clothes from a hand me down bag from his cousin and not roadman attire in the slightest 😂

I get "checking out my fit" from mine when I wander in her room and she's staring in the mirror with the contents of her wardrobe strewn everywhere!