He's not anorexic, so I know I'm lucky he does eat. But he won't eat decent food I've cooked and I have to cook separate shite for him nearly every day, or else we need to eat shite with him (we do sometimes because I don't want to cook 2 meals every day). He also won't eat unless food is in front of him, so there is no point saying get him to cook his own food: he will probably grab one plain wrap or a plain roll or chocolate biscuits. And his behaviour will be even worse than it is already because he's starving and nutritionally deprived. How old is this child? He'll be 18, yes EIGHTEEN next month.
I've just had enough today. I'm really tired, menopausal and I cooked a lovely meal which the 4 of us ALL enjoyed (2 other teens) except for him. I really thought about him, cut the onions big so I could remove them easily, used baby sweetcorn because it's one of the 3 veg he eats, cooked the rice plain because it can't have anything in it etc. He still refused to eat anything. Said it's disgusting because he could see other things on my plate which I'd removed from his.
When he's stressed he's a lot worse - his eating, his rudeness, his anger issues. He is borderline underweight and has had a cough all summer because I don't think he eats well enough to be healthy. His diet is basically 95% ultra processed food (including energy drinks every lunchtime). If I can get one veg OR fruit into him per day that's an achievement. We're just one week into Year 13. I don't think I can do the rest of the year, let alone when he's doing the actual A levels. The food is one part of it but it's representative of the rest of just how fucking difficult he is. He doesn't have a diagnosis other than inattentive ADHD when he was 7. It's so hard to get a doc appointment, let alone for something vague like eating/ stress/ anger.
I know this is just a vent but please... Any words of calm, empathy, wisdom. I just want to cry.