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Teenagers

Parenting teenagers has its ups and downs. Get advice from Mumsnetters here.

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Please cheer me up with teen holiday disasters

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bendmeoverbackwards · 16/08/2023 10:30

Please tell me it’s not just us.

On holiday in Italy with Dh and 3 dds aged 22, 20 and 16. First holiday as a five for a while. Youngest is autistic and that combined with being a hormonal teenage girl is not easy at moment.

Whilst we’ve had some pleasant times, there has also been arguments and rudeness/unreasonable demands from dd3.

I am under the illusion that other families don’t have this but I’m probably wrong.

Should add that older two dds definitely wanted to come and enjoy being with us but they’re finding their younger sister difficult to be around.

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balzamico · 18/08/2023 11:30

We're just back from a relatively successful two seeker with 15 and 18 year olds.

My only disaster area is that DD18 and DH cant seem to get on, they wind each other up, and have got to the point where neither can say anything without the other taking offence, telling it how it is (in their view) and falling out yet again.
I find both of them perfectly nice company on their own but tend to side with DD who was poorly and waiting for A levels results which doesnt go down well with DH.

I find everyone needs plenty of space, to do their own thing and nice weather

ohyesohyesoh · 18/08/2023 11:34

When one of our D.C. was that age, we had a really shitty time with them on holiday.
I thought of it as an endurance event rather than a pleasant break away from the usual routine. Was awful

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bendmeoverbackwards · 18/08/2023 11:46

@ohyesohyesoh how old are they now and are holidays better?

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BramblyHedge · 18/08/2023 11:51

I'll share...Middle child 15 is autistic and came on holiday with us but refused to do half the planned activities which included waterpark and archeology which is usually loves.

And now I am currently sat in tears. We are supposed to be travelling across the country to see my lovely in-laws for a long weekend. Spent all morning packing. Took day off work. He then locked down and won't talk to us. Obviously didn't want to go so DP and kids have had to go without us. So I'm stuck at home with a grumpy teen, no food, no car to drive to shop and not seeing the in-laws.

Not sure that makes you feel better but you aren't alone. Teens are the hardest stage in my opinion.

ohyesohyesoh · 18/08/2023 11:55

We have had two family holidays since then and as a whole it's been brilliant. 19 & 17 now.

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bendmeoverbackwards · 18/08/2023 11:56

I’m so sorry @BramblyHedge that’s rubbish for you. Do you think he might change his mind and you could go tomorrow on the train? Is that an option?

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BramblyHedge · 18/08/2023 12:02

@bendmeoverbackwards thanks. That is an option I guess - good idea.

2teenboys · 18/08/2023 12:21

we went to Orlando and my eldest stayed in the room for 4 days as he missed his girlfriend! silly fool.

NotMeNoNo · 18/08/2023 12:29

We have so many.
Went on a family camping holiday with IL's to Scotland. Autistic DS lasted one night and started to self destruct. He and I had to pay about £250 for first class train tickets home (during lockdown when there were hardly any seats) leaving DH and other DC there.
That was after arriving a day late due to faffing and leaving home late and having to try and stay all in one travelodge room where they nearly killed each other.
Lost count of holidays we have come home early from or had no couple time due to needing to divide and conquer or driven around in cars half the night to charge up devices.
At least half the days DS won't come out of hotel room or would go to an attraction and be bored in 15 minutes. We manage expectations now.
Take heart he's much improved at 17 and becoming quite the traveller!

Mariposista · 18/08/2023 17:01

Gosh I feel so so sorry for you all. I do know people who have had similar experiences but I feel so blessed myself. We are just back from 2 weeks with our 3 lovely children (in that include our fabulous stepson) and they were a dream to be away with. Holiday sabotage should be a crime (lighthearted). We work so hard and save up for them long enough!

EarthlyNightshade · 18/08/2023 17:50

Mariposista · 18/08/2023 17:01

I think you've missed the point of the thread a bit.

Fatandmenopausal · 19/08/2023 17:04

EarthlyNightshade · 18/08/2023 17:50

I think you've missed the point of the thread a bit.

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Yep… I think the OP was looking for similar stories not ones that make you feel worse 😞. We went away last week with 16 and 13 year old in uk. DS (16) refused to go to start with. Finally did get there and spent a lot of time in his room. Made a lovely salad to eat on beach one night. Kids moaned about the food and then oldest thrust the salad at his sister and it spilt. Youngest then ranted at him and shouted f**k off really loudly. I was mortified.

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