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Dancerr · 2023-08-10T11:42:04+00:00

Typical. First hol abroad, we even arranged it so she wouldn't have her period and this month it's abit late. We fly on Sun, if it comes today then the worse will be over, she said only day 1 and 2 are heavy and more manageable afterwards. We are only going for 4 days, 5 nights so wouldn't want it to arrive on the 1st day of holiday. I've ordered some period swimwear which is due to arrive today and I have bought some tampons to try but she's never used them before. The other option would be to try some medication to try and delay it.....but have read it can really mess with things afterwards, until now her periods have been pretty good, no pain, not particularly heavy. Thoughts please?

Jumprope309 · 10/08/2023 14:46

My daughter has taken the medication to delay her period with no problem.

I can totally understand not wanting to be having a period while on holiday. All the people saying it’s no bother must never have suffered from heavy periods!

Autumnismyfavouritetime · 10/08/2023 14:53

I can not believe how many are saying you are over reacting etc. Those posters really need to count themselves lucky as they obviously have no idea what heavy periods can be like.
I had decades of awful heavy periods, my sister has endometriosis and has suffered too and so to did our mum. No matter how regular I was you could bloody guarantee it would come late/early and always mess my holidays about (it even came unexpectedly on my wedding day!!).
Sadly my 15 year old dd seems to have inherited my family gynae issues.
I am trying to persuade her to try a menstural cup. Would it be something your dd would consider?
Dd has tried the mini pill but it made her feel unwell so it’s back to the drawing board for us.
I hope your dd manages to have a fun holiday.

Autumnismyfavouritetime · 10/08/2023 14:55

Perfect28 not true, believe me!

Swimbius · 10/08/2023 15:03

I’d be interested to know if anyone under 18 actually uses a moon cup, they something that many of my friends struggle with now in our thirties

I think I was around 28 before I successfully managed to use a mooncup. Way TMI, but prior to that I couldn't get it to pop open after folding and inserting. Although there are a lot more different cup types to try these days. It took me about 2 years to master tampons!

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Dancerr · 10/08/2023 15:21

bladebladebla1 · 10/08/2023 14:45

How terrible that a caring family are thoughtful enough to try to avoid an awkward holiday for their daughter. God some people on here! I don't have advice OP as not tried it but just wanted to say ignore the (can't say what I want to here) people who are giving you grief for this. I hate having my period on holiday as an adult

Thanks it did upset me to begin with but I'm choosing to take all the helpful, positive comments on board.

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Quoria · 10/08/2023 15:38

Genuinely curious (and I know it wasn't the case for the OP) but how do people plan their holiday round a period? We book about a year in advance. Or do you mean you plan your period around your holiday eg running two packs of the pill together?

Swimbius · 10/08/2023 16:04

We don't tend to book holidays a full year in advance, 3 or 4 months is more normal for us and I'm very regular so can easily work out timings.

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Dancerr · 10/08/2023 17:31

I have picked up a prescription from chemist. GP says it may not work if period imminent but its hard to tell. She said if it comes anyway then just stop taking it.

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onebusymum · 10/08/2023 21:30

We are in exactly the same position , go away when dd is due her period.
She does have swim wear that she has used in the past, but as her periods are getting heavier and can leak at night, I would like something to either delay or lighter hers.
I say do what you believe is best for your daughter. I hope you have a good holiday.

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Dancerr · 10/08/2023 21:33

onebusymum · 10/08/2023 21:30

We are in exactly the same position , go away when dd is due her period.
She does have swim wear that she has used in the past, but as her periods are getting heavier and can leak at night, I would like something to either delay or lighter hers.
I say do what you believe is best for your daughter. I hope you have a good holiday.

Thank you. It's really not ideal. I've picked up these tablets but she's not sure about taking them now. As long as we can get day 1 and 2 out the way before we got that would be workable. Such a shame as very regular usually and it should have been nearly over by the time we went!

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cansu · 10/08/2023 21:53

A nurse did tell me that taking the delaying medication can then lead to much heavier bleeding when you do have the period.

Howtosolveit · 10/08/2023 21:59

If she has no bad pain or heavy period I would just encourage her to try tampons. That way she can swim but not have the negative impact of medication. Should be easy enough.

pizzaHeart · 11/08/2023 00:11

Of course considering your period calendar is absolutely normal when planning a holiday. The same applies for your teens.
Who wants to be even a bit inconvenienced on holidays and deal with additional issues when you can avoid this?
And all these awful comments about how OP’s daughter should just get on with it. Why should she? She want to enjoy her holiday and it’s normal.

OP, my experience of period swimwear is a bit pessimistic.
My DD had her period on holiday (came earlier). She can’t use tampons so she’s got 2 Modibodi swimsuits with her. Each of them was enough for 45 minutes swimming but after that she needed changing, her swimsuit needed to be rinsed and dried. She also couldn’t use them first 2 days as they’re rated “light-moderate”. So they are not the perfect answer unfortunately.

Ladyj84 · 11/08/2023 00:13

Wow intense drama lol sorry our girls grew to know it's part of life and we get on with it never once would I consider meds for them.

Sugarfree23 · 11/08/2023 00:25

Op no real advice but you sound like a lovely mum, trying hard to avoid her period.

I wouldn't even consider her trying tampons without her period that sounds so uncomfortable. And could put her off.
Just remind her if they are uncomfortable or she can feel it take it out and try with a different one.
I can only use applicator ones ie tampax,

IScreamAtMichaelangelos · 11/08/2023 07:43

Of course considering your period calendar is absolutely normal when planning a holiday.

I have never even thought of doing this or met anyone else who's said they do it :/ honestly I'm a bit surprised at how regular everyone is (although I am no longer on any BC meds and now have irregular periods, so maybe I've forgotten).

ostwest · 11/08/2023 07:51

I took period-delaying meds once and regretted doing so, as I was bloated and irritated- just like v bad PMS. Couldn't relax, as was expecting period to start any minute. It did spoil my holidays.

WantingToEducate · 11/08/2023 08:51

IScreamAtMichaelangelos · 11/08/2023 07:43

Of course considering your period calendar is absolutely normal when planning a holiday.

I have never even thought of doing this or met anyone else who's said they do it :/ honestly I'm a bit surprised at how regular everyone is (although I am no longer on any BC meds and now have irregular periods, so maybe I've forgotten).

Anyone who is lucky enough to not have to plan their holidays around their periods are those who have no idea what it’s like to have awful periods.

When mine come on I’m in agony for two days, passing large blood clots and leaking through my sanitary products and clothes
every 2-3 hours. I can’t even walk to my local shop when I’m on my period because I can’t risk being away from home for over 20 minutes. I have to sit on towels when I sit on the sofa or if I’m sitting in a car and I have to sleep on towels too. When I go to work I have to take two spare uniforms with me and at least 3 spare pairs of underwear.

Do you think I could deal with that whilst handing around in an airport and during a 6 hour flight?

And why on earth would I want to function like that on holiday?

It’s great you don’t have to worry about things like that but don’t be so obtuse as to act superior or look down on those woman who do have plan their holidays around their periods.

Rether then sneering at them how about you try and have a little more compassion and understanding.

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 11/08/2023 09:22

Ladyj84 · 11/08/2023 00:13

Wow intense drama lol sorry our girls grew to know it's part of life and we get on with it never once would I consider meds for them.

Something g can be "part of life" and still factored into planning things.

Many girls start their periods as young as 9. Can you imagine telling a 9year old to sit on the side of the pool for a week and watch others swimming because she has her period? Surely if you could plan to avoid that you would?

IScreamAtMichaelangelos · 11/08/2023 10:01

WantingToEducate · 11/08/2023 08:51

Anyone who is lucky enough to not have to plan their holidays around their periods are those who have no idea what it’s like to have awful periods.

When mine come on I’m in agony for two days, passing large blood clots and leaking through my sanitary products and clothes
every 2-3 hours. I can’t even walk to my local shop when I’m on my period because I can’t risk being away from home for over 20 minutes. I have to sit on towels when I sit on the sofa or if I’m sitting in a car and I have to sleep on towels too. When I go to work I have to take two spare uniforms with me and at least 3 spare pairs of underwear.

Do you think I could deal with that whilst handing around in an airport and during a 6 hour flight?

And why on earth would I want to function like that on holiday?

It’s great you don’t have to worry about things like that but don’t be so obtuse as to act superior or look down on those woman who do have plan their holidays around their periods.

Rether then sneering at them how about you try and have a little more compassion and understanding.

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I didn't sneer and am not looking down at anyone. I am genuinely sorry that your periods have been so unpleasant as to necessitate this level of planning.

Comedycook · 11/08/2023 10:12

My DD used period swimwear on holiday and it was absolutely fine. Don't worry. It's totally manageable. My DD swam every day.

Isitbedtimeyet10 · 11/08/2023 10:35

We've just had the same dilemma and have collected the tablets. DD is 15.5 and this years holiday is with cousins, so lots of pool time and water slides. We just wanted her to enjoy it and not be conscious or worrying about things. It will probably be the last holiday she even entertains her younger cousins !

I hope your DD has a lovely worry free holiday!

Qilin · 11/08/2023 10:37

Perfect28 · 10/08/2023 14:20

You don't bleed in water because of the pressure. Get some period bikini bottoms and it won't be an issue at all.

I though that was an 'old wife's tale' type of myth.

Qilin · 11/08/2023 10:42

Ladyj84 · 11/08/2023 00:13

Wow intense drama lol sorry our girls grew to know it's part of life and we get on with it never once would I consider meds for them.

And that worked for you, fair enough.

For me, medication worked best due to pain mainly when I was younger.

For dd, we did what worked best for her and what she was most comfortable with at any one time. The approach changed from when she was first experiencing them at aged 10y to now, at 21y. It will continue to change as she goes through different stages of her life.

Periods are natural, they are a part of a women's (and girl's) life. But it's perfectly fine to find them an inconvenience at times and want to delay/stop/deal with them in different ways, including medication if appropriate.

timegoingtooquickly · 11/08/2023 10:59

From some of these post I can imagine a lot of martyrs on this thread! We're woman let's suffer, let's not do anything to help, let's 'just get on with it' 🤷🏼‍♀️

Bloody hell what is wrong with some people sneering at OP for trying to make life a bit easier for her daughter.

OP I think she should wear a hat saying 'I'm on my period' and wave a red flag!