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Teenagers

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Do you let your teens dye their hair?

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Piscesmumma1978 · 20/07/2023 16:28

Just wondering if I'm being too strict on this one

15yo wants to dye her brown hair red. I'm not keen.

Aibu?? Thanks x

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YouCantBeSadHoldingACupcake · 20/07/2023 16:30

Yes to colouring, but no bleach until they are 16.

Tinytigertail · 20/07/2023 16:31

Yes, both of mine were dying their hair from 13/14 yrs. I've absolutely no problem with it. Our hairdresser would always tell them if she thought it would be too damaging ie lots of bleach. It's a fairly innocuous way of letting them experiment and express themselves imo.

TeenDivided · 20/07/2023 16:31

School uniform rules may ban any 'non natural' colours.

DD had some of her blonde hair done purple. After a few washes the purple went and she was left with a kind of green. Luckily it was an 'under dye' (peep through?).

mondaytosunday · 20/07/2023 16:33

My son bleached his hair when 12/13. Told him it had to be dyed back to brown for school though.
I'd be upset if my daughter did this though as her hair truly is her crowning glory and a beautiful auburn colour (and very long).

SugarPlumpFairy3 · 20/07/2023 16:33

Thankfully dd’s school has no rules about them dying their hair unnatural colours so she’s been dying her hair since y7 (blue but they washed out after a few weeks) Nothing permanent until y10 where she’s settled on bright red 😄.

I can’t get worked up about hair dye.

LifeInAHamsterWheel · 20/07/2023 16:34

I allow mine to do whatever they want with their hair (so long as it doesn't break school rules) It's only hair, it will grow back. Anything more permanent will be considered on an individual basis but so far I've only had to deal with questionable hairstyles!

KeepYourHead · 20/07/2023 16:34

I would, but they’ve never wanted to as they like their hair as it is.

I think it’s harmless, as long as it’s ok for school or its in the holidays and will be washed out in time for next term.

VeridicalVagabond · 20/07/2023 16:34

Yes, my 15yo daughter inherited her dad's platinum blonde hair so I've said go nuts. She's had it blue, green, pink, rainbow, and it's currently an exceptional shade of neon orange. She's a bright and colourful human being so I'm happy to let her express that through her hair if she wants to. It's only hair. She can grow more.

I do agree no bleach until older though, only because of the awful damage it can do if not done properly.

HappilyContentTheseDays · 20/07/2023 16:34

Honestly, I really can't see the problem. I used to dye my hair as a teen and since I'm in my sixties, I was living in a much less liberated age....and my mother was quite strict about things. But hair dye? Why on earth not? Just teach your child to do it properly, without splashing the bathroom walls and floor, and how to clean up after themselves. Simples.

Pkhsvd · 20/07/2023 16:35

Yes to my dark haired child, I wouldn’t want a child with blonde hair to dye it dark as I’m not sure how well that would work out. Red on dark hair will fade after a bit anyway

BlueChampagne · 20/07/2023 16:36

Yes. If they are content just to experiment on their hair, it could be worse! DD (15) is currently re-dyeing half her hair pink. The other half is black.

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Piscesmumma1978 · 20/07/2023 16:36

Thanks everyone. I was being unreasonable.

I've agreed to a dark red and see how we go!

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ricekrispi · 20/07/2023 16:38

I'm not keen but DD likes her hair colour so it hasn't been a pressing issue for us yet. I think I feel this way because I don't want her to get into a routine that is expensive to maintain and ultimately will damage her hair.

Lots of her friends dye their hair/have highlights - some results look much better than others!

orangeclubsarebest · 20/07/2023 16:39

Dd wanted to dye her beautiful blonde hair brown. I wouldn't let her. Her hair and all but she would always regret that.

cocksstrideintheevening · 20/07/2023 16:40

DTs are end of y7 and have been dying their hair in the holidays since lockdown tbh. Not one I want to argue over.

I'm not paying for balayage or whatever else they want, they can save the money when they're older.

TeamsInterview · 20/07/2023 16:41

I let my dd dye her hair from about 14 , it's one battle that's easy to let them 'win' and stops them saying that you don't let them do anything!

Cece92 · 20/07/2023 16:41

I dyed my hair from 13. I had every colour under the sun lol. Xx

xxalhxx · 20/07/2023 16:44

She's kind of at the age where she can make decisions for her self it's her appearance not yours aslong as she ain't get in trouble at school then it's just mean not letting her

TheChosenTwo · 20/07/2023 16:46

One of mine has dirty blonde hair and has just started dying it a dark brown this past year so I suppose from 18.
My other dd is more experimental, cut herself a fringe in during lockdown, bleached it and turned it pink. That was a shock coming home from work to, and there I was thinking she’d be having lazy days 😂
when she left school I paid for her to go to the hairdresser and have it done properly, the blond is now underneath and she colours that bit depending on her mood.
I think she’ll be ruining her hair but she’s nearly 18 now and it’s her hair to ruin - it grows back, it really is only hair after all.
I don’t care enough about it to have an opinion.

QueenAstrid · 20/07/2023 16:52

Yes. Where’s the harm?

steppemum · 20/07/2023 17:00

dd is 15.
She has hada tough time during covid and pushes against every boundary and struggles with lots of things.

So I try to only say no when she needs it to be no.
So she asked to dye her hair from about aged 7 (!)
When she was about 14 we went for it. and yes we did bleach and dye.
Every holiday she has been a different colour, we've literally been through every colour of the rainbow (her goal was to do the rainbow before she was 16.)

She bleaches it on Thursday, last day of school Friday, goes bright pink Friday night. Last night before school goes back it has to go to 'natural' colour.

Actually it has been a lot of fun. She has a shaved undercut so it is just the top getting coloured. I love her with bright coloured hait and it allowed her a vent for some of her anti everything vibe.

She's just bought bright green for this summer.
It's just hair. It grows.

DustyLee123 · 20/07/2023 17:01

Yes, as long as she adheres to school rules during school terms.

Begonne · 20/07/2023 17:05

We did a dip dye with the intention of cutting the ends off before school. Dd has discovered that her hair texture has changed, it tangles like doll hair, the dye fades fast, she attracts a lot of attention and it was a very expensive way of spoiling her carefree summer swimming.

If she decides to dye again, she’ll know what she’s getting herself into.

stargirl1701 · 20/07/2023 17:07

Dip dying ends from 10. Ends chopped off before school starts again Aug.

JaninaDuszejko · 20/07/2023 17:16

My teenagers have never asked to dye their hair but I know my hairdresser has a minimum age for permanent colours (not for the wash in wash out stuff) which would be the main deciding factor. I went to a school with no uniform so I was having streaks in my hair from their age so it would be hypocritical of me to say no.

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