Husband against teens b'day present idea

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Looking for suggestions how to tackle my husband for rejecting DS's birthday present idea.

DS loves his PC, which he built with his dad/my husband two years ago. DS is into gaming, but his interest in computing is wider; he loves messing about with coding + graphic design, as well as watching youtubers build PCs. His room is full of flashing rgb lights.

Last xmas, DS wanted parts to upgrade his PC. Husband was totally against. He tore into every suggestion DS made. Eventually husband agreed to a small upgrade of memory with lights. But husband bought only half of what DS wanted saying he wasn't replacing the existing memory as it still worked. DS was so disappointed as it was the only thing he really wanted.

DS has a birthday soon. What does he want for his birthday? To upgrade his beloved PC of course! Husband has gone mad against this, again.

I think a kid should be free to get what they want for their birthday (within reason!) + my husband is being total a jerk. Its not about the money, my husband just keeps ranting about how its pointless to do any PC upgrades because everything works fine for what DS needs.

I just can't understand Husband's stance or get him to see DS's viewpoint. I have tried:

• that DS's main hobby is his PC.
• how upset DS was at xmas not to get the parts he expected.
• its more of a waste to buy DS things he doesn't want.
• if DS liked skateboards or wanted expensive clothes, we'd buy them for his birthday, even if we thought it was a waste of money.
• Husband didn't need a new TV last year as the old one still worked, but he got it anyway.

I hate the idea of DS being disappointed with his presents, again. The only idea I have is to give DS money. But thats a pretty rubbish fix because it just postpones the arguement until DS wants to spend the money on PC upgrades.

Any others ideas what else I can say/do?

The gift isn't just 'improving/replacing his pc so it works better' though, so it's irrelevant if it functions well enough. The gift is really giving DS an opportunity to engage with his hobby (which is also something practical that could lead to a good job) and make the upgrades himself. There's a huge difference between the two. You're buying him experience and enjoyment, not straight tech.

Your husband is being a pillock. Buy it anyway.

Thanks all, you've all made me realise I should stop giving a f##k about talking my Husband around. I guess its become automatic, as for years I've encouraged and fostered my Husband's involvement with his kids to try to build the relationships. But teenagers are harder to fool. When Husband acts like a d!ck or can't be arsed, its increasingly harder to gloss over + protect them from it.

I've realised DS has probably developed enough computing knowhow that we don't need to involve or suffer my Husband. I may lack computing knowledge, but I'm good at supporting DS, being a sounding board to help with his indecision + very willing to break out the credit card!