AIBU (Bedtime)

[ChocLover73]

DS 15 is complaining that we won't let him play with his friends on his computer after 8 on weeknights saying all his friends are etc. DD 13 needs her sleep and DS is up at 6 for a paper round. Should we be more lax? What are your opinons?

You're treating him like a much younger child.

No tech in bedrooms is a reasonable rule when DC are young, but if he can't use tech (is he not allowed any other devices upstairs either?) in the lounge because it impacts other people then it needs to move into his bedroom/other space and the rule becomes it's not used past x hour.

Though to be honest he's old for a tech rule and definitely too old for an enforced bedtime - let him work out himself when he needs to go to bed. Find to make rules such as he has to be quiet after 9pm when his sister is in bed (or whatever) and that you'll get stricter if he's not getting up in the morning/visibly exhausted etc. At the moment you seem to be basing your "rules" round the needs of other people (and animals) in the house and not what's appropriate for him.

I think 8pm is a bit early, 9pm might be better but perhaps on a trial basis for noise etc?