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Original poster

What time do your 15yo/year 10 have to be home?

37 replies

Starintheshow · 13/05/2023 10:22

In the evening, if they're out locally in the park?

Also while I'm asking do they have a bedtime schools night and weekends?

Just to get an idea of what's normal.

OP posts:
3WildOnes · 13/05/2023 10:29

Mine are a bit younger but I think at 15 wouod want them home before dark if they were just at the park. Later if at a friend's house. 9 on a school night.

Citrusnotes77 · 13/05/2023 10:32

Not a very helpful reply probably but I didn’t allow my teen dds to hang out in the park after dark. Some of the parks where I live have active drug dealers in them after 9pm. If they were out, my dds were out at a friends house who were known to us as a family. This happened rarely during the week but often at weekends.

Bed times for 15 year olds = asleep by 10 pm school night and 11.30 to midnight weekends.

elliejjtiny · 13/05/2023 10:38

If he is just hanging around at the park with his mates he has to be home for tea at 5:30. If he wants to go out in the evening (he hasn't so far but older son does) then it has to be somewhere like bowling/cinema, not hanging around and dh will take and collect him.

DiscoBeat · 13/05/2023 10:43

My 15 year old DS doesn't really go out in the evenings (usually earlier in the eve to the gym or for a run). But last summer holidays he went to the park with friends to play sports and we insisted he needed to be home before it was dark (couldn't see the ball anyway!) Same with DS12.
School nights it's lights out at 10.30 and 10 respectively but often the older son is asleep before then. The younger one would stay up all night if we let him!!

Liorae · 13/05/2023 10:45

elliejjtiny · 13/05/2023 10:38

If he is just hanging around at the park with his mates he has to be home for tea at 5:30. If he wants to go out in the evening (he hasn't so far but older son does) then it has to be somewhere like bowling/cinema, not hanging around and dh will take and collect him.

Your 15 year old has a 5.30 curfew? I forsee trouble down the road. Perhaps it is time to loosen the apron strings.

BonjourCrisette · 13/05/2023 10:46

DD is 16. If she's going out in the evening, to a party or something, the times are variable but she has to have a safe journey home planned and tell me what it is and when she will be back. If just messing around in the park or something then home for dinner (around 7pm). Always home for dinner on a school night.

Skybluepinky · 13/05/2023 10:46

What are they doing at the park?
As soon as it’s dark.

firsttimemum1230 · 13/05/2023 10:48

I’m almost 28 but when I was 15 my time was 9pm no matter what and that also included phones down stairs and laptops everything. I think I’ll be the same in 13 years time when my daughter is 15 with the curfew probably not the phone though 😂😂

2chocolateoranges · 13/05/2023 10:48

Didn’t allow mine to hang about the park or the streets after dark. Quite happy for them to go to a friends house until 9pm or later if I was collecting them.

they chose their own bed time on the premise that they got up great the next morning for school,

Original poster
Starintheshow · 13/05/2023 10:59

Skybluepinky · 13/05/2023 10:46

What are they doing at the park?
As soon as it’s dark.

Just playing sports with a couple of friends.

He doesn't usually go out much at all really, so that's why I'm a bit unsure/out of touch.

Apart from football training he only normally goes out occasionally during the day, either for a bike ride, for a walk up to the high street to get a McDonald's, or to an organised trip where he'll be getting picked up and dropped off.

It came out of the blue meeting a couple of friends at the park down the road. There was a bit of pushing their luck and they all ended up running home but I was a bit wushu washy on a time so want to be more prepared next time.

OP posts:
elliejjtiny · 13/05/2023 11:03

Liorae · 13/05/2023 10:45

Your 15 year old has a 5.30 curfew? I forsee trouble down the road. Perhaps it is time to loosen the apron strings.

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The 5:30 curfew is only if he is just hanging around the streets/park. He is allowed out in the evening, as long as he is not just hanging around.

elliejjtiny · 13/05/2023 11:05

He has never asked to go out in the evening so I'm assuming his mates have similar rules. My 16 year old goes out in the evening quite a lot but we always take him and pick him up.

gingercat02 · 13/05/2023 11:26

At home he goes to bed when we do so somewhere between 10:30 and 11:30. Weekends might be later but not often.

If he's out and we're picking him up before midnight, if he is out playing football or something else, they usually come home when it's getting dark.

Thankfully, they are usually doing something or at someone's house they aren't hanging about drinking in the park

ChevyCamaro · 13/05/2023 11:30

In the summer they go out a lot to hang out and play football. When it gets dark they might head to the rugby club and get a burger or some chips. I don't insist on getting home for tea, they can stick it in the microwave when they get in. As long as its local and I get the odd text my curfew is 10/10.30 on a weekend. Much later if they are at a mates house, but then I will pick them up. I was out clubbing every weekend at 15 so am just grateful I'm not waiting up til 2/3 am and dealing with drunkenness ( yet!)

CLEO42 · 13/05/2023 11:52

9.30, maybe 10 on school night and it would depend how he's getting home but that's from other friends houses. It would only be once or twice a week because of other activities and homework anyway. There doesn't seem to be a hang around the park thing amongst his friends but if there was I'd be OK until it starts to go dark.

Simianwalk · 13/05/2023 11:56

firsttimemum1230 · 13/05/2023 10:48

I’m almost 28 but when I was 15 my time was 9pm no matter what and that also included phones down stairs and laptops everything. I think I’ll be the same in 13 years time when my daughter is 15 with the curfew probably not the phone though 😂😂

Wow! When I was 15 I was raving in a field 😁

SpringNotSprung · 13/05/2023 11:59

Mine are mid/late 20s now. But at 15 they had GCSEs coming up. 2/3 nights a week they had sports practice of rehearsals at school. There wasn't any park. Sunday to Thursday were school nights with an hour and a half of homework. Saturday mornings were often given over to matches. Friday evenings/Saturdays tended to be meeting at friends' houses. We often had 8/9 of their friends at ours. We usually ordered pizzas for them, as did other parents. Some of those friends still join us for lunch/supper at weekends if the DC are about.

I don't understand why teens would gather aimlessly in parks when exams are looming.

Simianwalk · 13/05/2023 12:00

But there is a happy medium somewhere. My 15 can't be in the park after dark, it's a bit rough anyway. He can be at the gym, or a friend's house as late as he likes at the weekend as long as he can get home safely. School nights he tends to be in bed by 10.30, his brother is a year older and similar though never in bed before 11.30 as a night owl.

TomatoSandwiches · 13/05/2023 12:18

On a school night he has clubs/activities or is at the gym and sometimes footie games with DH so will be home before 7pm most days, midweek footie nights they get home 10:30ish.
Weekends he will go out before lunch and can come home before 9pm but often is home at 7 again of his on accord.

Bed time on school nights is 10:30 and honestly he can stay up to whenever at the weekends so long as he is quiet.

Rule is that he texts me when he has met up with his mates, leaving the area he initially went to and when he is on his way home.

He is quite sensible <knocks on wood> may it long continue!

Liorae · 13/05/2023 13:51

I don't understand why teens would gather aimlessly in parks when exams are looming.
To socialize without hovering parents probably.

spaceychimp80 · 13/05/2023 14:01

When my DS was 15 I expected him home by 9pm unless at a gig and then I would pick him up. Now he is nearly 17, I expect him home by 11pm.

Wittow · 13/05/2023 14:08

When it starts to get dark if out with mates. Certainly back by 9.30pm. But my local area is fairly safe. I wouldn't let her into the city centre after 6ish.

Bedtime = 10pm lights out on a school night. Probably midnight ish at weekends and school hols.

Tulipvase · 13/05/2023 14:08

SpringNotSprung · 13/05/2023 11:59

Mine are mid/late 20s now. But at 15 they had GCSEs coming up. 2/3 nights a week they had sports practice of rehearsals at school. There wasn't any park. Sunday to Thursday were school nights with an hour and a half of homework. Saturday mornings were often given over to matches. Friday evenings/Saturdays tended to be meeting at friends' houses. We often had 8/9 of their friends at ours. We usually ordered pizzas for them, as did other parents. Some of those friends still join us for lunch/supper at weekends if the DC are about.

I don't understand why teens would gather aimlessly in parks when exams are looming.

Op is talking about a year 10, exams are a year away.

My year 10 is allowed out till it’s dark on the weekend. During the week he is back for dinner. Him and his friends are out on their bikes, not really hanging around parks.

SpringNotSprung · 13/05/2023 14:15

Oh I see but my DC had exams in Y10, including some GCSEs (and Y9, Y8, Y7). I think there are far more constructive things for teenagers to do than meeting up to loiter in parks. Much more fun things too. Mine had choir practice, reheaesals, rugby practice, cricket practice, played tennis. As did their friends.

LadyJ2023 · 13/05/2023 14:20

15 if going somewhere cinema or whatever then 9ish and bed 11 at wkends if park then teatime don't want them hanging around doing nothing but possibly causing trouble and week days 6.30 tea homework bed 9.30 reads till 10