Have you ever taken a friend to an uncle’s house?! DS13 says it “isn’t a thing”!

[acornstew]

This may be a weirdly specific request but I need examples please…

My brother and his family live in a lovely rural part of the country and have invited us to stay for a few days over Easter. I’d love my 13 year old DS to come with me, rather than stay home with his father, so I suggested he bring a friend along too.

DS’s response? “I’m not inviting a friend to stay at my uncle’s house. Nobody does that.”

I said that people often take friends on holiday with them. He said, yeah, but not to an UNCLE’s house!

So can anyone tell me how and when it has been done previously in the history of human kind??! And how did it go?

😁

^so true!

@TwoLeftSocksWithHoles We will be bringing ‘Timmy’ with us! DS and friend will probably have a wonderful time walking T up on the moors together, which he wouldn’t want to do alone

@AndrexPuppy yep, he has not yet seen Withnail!

@MikeLitoriss @Boringcookingquestion
Your hols sound great fun - but yeah I might not mention the alcohol part. Esp as the cousins are a lot younger!

@butterfliedtwo @Doingmybest12 yeah thanks, I think you’re right and the embarrassment potential of being with family are probably part of what’s leading to the instant rejection of the idea outright.

Probably he doesn’t know his friend well enough yet as well.

We won’t really have any other holiday, so family visits are really the only opportunity to go away. DS loves his cousins but as they are younger, having a friend for alternative activities would give a lot more balance for DS.

His friend is sweet and as the cousins are much younger I would expect them to enjoy their company in a kind hanging out way some of the time, and do their own thing at other times.

On reflection and with the help of all the responses, it may be something to aim for in a future holiday when the boys know each other better and the friend has spent some time at our house first.

I went to my best friend’s uncle’s house in deep dark wales when I was a teenager

On reflection and with the help of all the responses, it may be something to aim for in a future holiday when the boys know each other better and the friend has spent some time at our house first.

Yes I think wait to see how their friendship pans out. Or it might be the kiss of death.

You can also get to know the parents as that might influence whether his friend wants to come. If your families at least know each other.

....... ? Would you have gone again!

I had an aunt that lived in London so me and a friend would go stay for a week or two in the summer.

When you're 13, it's excruciatingly embarrassing to have to acknowledge you have parents, let alone other family members!

Teens are weird. It's like eating breakfast or wearing a coat!

My first ever independent (ish) holiday was a few days in Scotland with my best friend to stay with my aunt. Still remember it as one of my best holidays ever actually. I think I was about 16.

I used to stay in my auntie's off a weekend while mum worked I had friends stay with me.

I’ve visited a friend’s aunt and uncle’s house in the U.K. and brought a friend to my aunt’s house abroad.

I genuinely don't understand why. Are you coming from a place where you assume all teens have or should have close friendships and prioritise them over family and want to spend all their free time together with their friends? I would never have wanted to bring a friend on a trip to family whether I was 8 or 13 or 17 and it wouldn't occur to me nor would I want to do so if offered as an adult. It seems to me his 'nobody does that!' is not only social embarrassment or the thought thereof but a related 'people don't do that AND why would they?"