What chores or things around the house does your 14 year old do?

[summerfinn]

My 14 year old ds minds his three year old brother for maybe an hour every couple of days while I do cleaning ect around the house. He also puts the toys away in the playroom every evening. I get him to keep his room tidy and put clean sheets in his own bed. Am I asking too much or too little?

DD does her own washing.
Takes out rubbish.
Mops and sweeps.
Unloads DW
Obviously makes own bed.

I would say right track? Maybe too little? (I have ramped it up a bit recently as DD is nearly15)

He does his own washing, does the washing up twice a week, puts the rubbish out, cooks occasionally, helps with tidying up.

He's the youngest, the others are adults. We all help out with housework.

My son is grown up now but it was his job to keep his own room clean/change his bedding. Load and unload the dishwasher, put the bins out, clean the family bathroom (he had sole use of).

Sounds like he could be asked to do a little more?

I'd probably want him to help with dinner in some way, setting/clearing the table/cooking once a week/stack the dishwasher/wash up. I'd want at least some input into mealtimes from him (and the three year old if possible).

My DS is almost 14 and keeps him room tidy- changes his own sheets, dusts and hoovers it weekly. He also empties the bin and puts it out/brings it in. He will put the hoover over the kitchen if I ask him. He also puts his own clean washing away twice a week.

These are the chores my 14 year old autistic son has to do:

empty dishwasher
drying up as and when
sorts and takes out bins every week
tidies/cleans own bedroom
puts own clothes away
makes own breakfast
feeds cats
strips own bed
sweeps front drive when asked
helps with gardening when asked

Too little. He needs to learn skills and 14 is late to be learning them. Cooking, washing, cleaning, all skills. Start from that place.

DD 12 does loads, partially because her waste of space cousin lives like a pig at 20 and she knows she doesn't want to end up living like that. He's been a lovely object lesson in useless housekeepers.

My 15yr old ds
Strips and remakes own bed.
Either washes up/ dries up/ puts away after tea every night. Husband and ds 17 do one of the other 2 jobs.
Puts washing on and hangs out when asked.
Runs hoover round.
Makes own lunch if not getting a school dinner.

He can also cook plenty of meals by him self.

Not many. She keeps her room tidy, changes her bed, feeds animals, cleans her bathroom. She knows how to do most stuff but doesn’t do them often.

His room is also kept spotless. Dusts and hoovers once a week. Clothes all away. Only wish my ds17 was the same his room is a disgrace.

Change own bed, put away own clothes, sometimes does own washing (if he is displeased with the speed I am washing something), tidy room 1x per week, often makes own dinner (but we are all crap and tend to eat oven food currently), bring plates/cups/etc from bedroom to dishwasher.

Then tasks he is supposed to do to benefit the house as a whole - take bins down as and when, empty dishwasher.

We have young kids (4 and 1) but he is not expected to look after them regularly. If I'm home and he's home then I might ask him to keep an eye while I have a shower or maybe a nap (rarely) or do a specific task, but mostly I do my cleaning with the LO following around or while they nap or are at paid childcare.

We might ask him to babysit in evening if the kids slept which they don't reliably, but we would probably pay him if we did this (less than a proper babysitter I think).

I may be asking too little of him. The cooking thing well he can make himself dinner if it involves the air frier or something like scrabbled eggs. I do sometimes feel guilty asking him to watch his brother while I cook dinner or clean but I don't have any other options sometimes as I don't have family or friends that can help out. I forget he's 14 sometimes, boys are so immature at that age 🙈

These threads always bring out the extreme.

i don’t have set chores for mine, she works hard at school and I wfh so I’m happy to do most of the housework. We tend to prepare dinner together and sort out the dishwasher together , and she cleans the dog’s teeth every night ! When I remember I force her to tidy her room a bit and give it a hoover . She also does all the baking 😁

Nothing is extreme! We are all saying the same thing?

Dishwasher
rubbish
washing
Own room tidying
General housework/pet care

Some a tiny bit more some less

DS is 14 - 15 end of this year...

He makes his bed, hangs his clean washing, puts washing in basket, brings rubbish down etc

DH works away so generally if we have tea together I make it and DS washed dishes, puts away and empties kitchen bin - I then clean worktops and floor.

If he eats alone he washes his dishes. Can make a simple oven food meal or pasta.

Capable of putting washing in, hanging out etc if u need him to.

He watches his young brother three times a week for an hour whilst I go to the gym (5 min from home and I am contactable)

I don't ask him a lot but he can and will hoover round, help put toys away, knows how to clean bathroom etc.

No you’re right! I just read backwards. Just usually these threads end up making me feel like I’m a lazy parent. But so far all very reasonable, I apologise !

If it makes you feel any better OP, my 13yo does even less. Keeps his room fairly tidy without being nagged, but would not know one end of the hoover from the other.

He is supposed to wash up once or twice a week, but when he's asked to, you can feel the resentment radiating out from the sink area ...

My 14 year old son cleans the bathroom and hoovers the halls and stairs once a week. He keeps his room tidyish and changes his bedding. He collects dishes from around the house for the dishwasher. Over Easter I'm teaching him to iron and then he can take over looking after all his clothes.
In addition, he can earn extra pocket money for mowing the lawn. He also babysits our 10 year old once a fortnight so we can pop out to the cinema or the (very) local pub and he gets paid for that.
I'd like him to do more on the food prep/cooking side too, but I also want him to have time for study, activities and socialising. He has just done a 6 week cookery course for DofE so I could potentially get him to make us the delicious meatballs again.

Dt's 14, dd does her own washing. Both take it turns to empty dishwasher and cook once a week ( often using hello fresh in dd's case).
They take reasonably good care of their rooms and I top up clean them.

DD has since she was 13 and demanded an "allowance" ...

Set table, clear table every other dinner time
Empty dishwasher
Keep room clean and tidy, strip bed weekly
Do her own ironing for school, puts all her clean washing away
Makes own breakfast and packed lunch on school days
Makes the dinner once a week
When asked, hoovers, takes out bins and recycling, takes in washing of the line

They do still manage to make a fair amount of mess though.

Own washing

Loading/unloading dishwasher

Hoovering rooms/sweeping stairs

Changing own bedlinen

Ugh, my 15 year old does nothing. I don’t have the energy to make him.