What chores or things around the house does your 14 year old do?

[summerfinn]

My 14 year old ds minds his three year old brother for maybe an hour every couple of days while I do cleaning ect around the house. He also puts the toys away in the playroom every evening. I get him to keep his room tidy and put clean sheets in his own bed. Am I asking too much or too little?

Sweet F all unless begged. And even then it's only clearing the drainer and taking the recycling out

DD almost 14:
Empty/ load dishwasher
Cooks once a week for the family
Tidies own room
Puts own laundry away and some times does her own laundry.
Hoovers when asked.

Chips in with other chores when asked with minimal grumbling.

Ds 17 - cooks for the family quite often, clears table, fills/empties the dishwasher, changes bed, puts own clothes away, helps put food shop away.
Ds 15 - as above but rarely cooks, isn't around to put food shop away.

We are lucky enough to have a cleaner but they are expected to keep room tidy enough & house tidy & do other jobs when asked. Want them to help with washing as it's endless due to sport but think it would annoy me more and mess up my routine.

• Empties and loads the dishwasher
• lays the table
• pairs socks and puts laundry away
• changes his bed
• washes my car ( this is a deal to pay for PlayStation plus)
• keeps own room tidy
• cooks sometimes and often helps prepare dinner, but this is something he enjoys rather than a chore

At 14 ds was doing own laundry, bedding, keeping his room clean with the odd nudge/help with a clear out of old clothes etc now and again.

After that it was just a general mix of helping out a bit every day - bins, cooking, vacuum, dusting, cleaning windows/glass when we did inside every couple of years, dishwasher, walking dog, tidying etc etc. Especially cooking as needed to learn various skills which takes time - so help chopping veg/meat, making white sauce, making omelette, etc etc

My twins have just turned 13 so a bit younger. They do absolutely bugger all. We have a cleaner and someone who comes in a couple of times a week to do the washing and ironing. DH and I work full time and travel. They enjoy cooking and baking.

Mine feed the cats and clean out their litter trays daily
make their own breakfast and packed lunch

They will also do all the above stuff when asked but these are the only things that are part of their daily routine.

Everything to related to his own bedroom, clothes, bathroom. Locks up the hens at night, he makes his own breakfast and will cook a family meal one day a week. We all do a big house clean for one hour together on a Saturday.

My 14 year old just makes bed keeps room tidy. He has long days at school I don't expect him to hoover etc

my mum didnt't make us do chores either - we were all fine when we left home and managed to cook clean etc

DS15yo has dyspraxia and ASD, and I’ve recently started to be far more conscious about him participating in household stuff. It is easier to do it myself, as he needs things to be explained more than once, and a level of supervision. But I know that I am investing in his and my future, so I need to play the long game.

He:

*Strips his own bed once every two weeks (I put the clean bedding in when he is at school)

*Makes dinner once a week for us all - decides what to cook, finds a recipe, writes down any ingredients needed on the shopping list, then cooks it. I clear up (the mess is unbelievable, but I will tackle that separately)

*Clears the table after dinner every night

*Puts the food waste bin out when it is full (at the moment I’m having to tell him it is full but he still is made to take it out, this is an example of it being quicker for me to just take it out myself)

*Puts his own laundry away (I insist that all laundry is sorted by colours by the person who has worn the clothes, that they put them into the triple sorter bags and I wash each bag when it is full, so he doesn’t do the laundry himself)

*Tidies his room every Thursday night (cleaner comes on Fridays)