Feel really bad I just shouted at DS 17 and called him a little shit

[SecretStasch]

DS 17 currently lounges about in bed all day watching nextflix. I’m nagging him to get up and be productive.

Last night I caught him smoking a spliff out of his bedroom window and I went mad. I have a rule which is absolutely no drugs or smoking in the house. He just went ‘sor - ree’ like off Kevin and Perry. Today he phoned me from his bedroom for a bacon bap.

I stormed upstairs and called him a lazy shit. He looked genuinely taken aback. I feel really bad as he lost his job last week and I know he’s gutted. Should I just move on? I don’t like any kind of discord in the house.

I feel like I need to be supportive by helping him with his CV and look for jobs but he’s just making me so very cross 😡

agree
dont make a big deal of your reaction
he needs to be told

I'd have called him a lot worse! He is an entitled little shit.

I feel you have done nothing wrong op. Mine is 17 and will be job searching soon once he returns from summer camp with his army cadets next week. He was unable to get a part time job any sooner as he was retaking maths gcse as well as studying a one year business course.

Nevertheless mine still acts an entitled little shit at times. He does make his own breakfast and lunch though and helps with washing up. Can you give him more to do in the house to keep him occupied as well as refusing to take him meals. I stopped taking him meals once he was 13.

A few of his friends do the odd bit of cannabis but I have never let my ds smoke weed at home. He occasionally smokes over at his friends but he does not get pocket money from me as he gets from his dad. So he cannot afford it very often which I think helps!

Can you withhold pocket money? I cannot afford any anyway as I am exceedingly hard up right now and ds needs to take care of his own expenses.

Apologise for calling him a shit and explain why you were frustrated and overreacted. Then offer to help him find a job.

Give him a hug 🤣🤣🤣🤣

My mother wouldn't have threatened a boot up the arse and when I put money on the table I would get a bacon bap lol how times have changed

He needs a kick up the arse and reminding that the world doesn’t owe him a living. Why did he lose his job? If it was for treating his employer the way he’s treating you he deserved the sack, The world won’t give him a hug, it will bite him on the backside!