She is just horrible to me 80% of the time, whatever I do or say is wrong, what I wear, how i walk, stand, breathe? She is just so unpleasant I'm in tears a lot atm. She is almost 18 i cant bear much more some days. she was lovely and adored me once, any advice x
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Feel like my teen daughter hates me at times
Needwine999 · 05/07/2022 14:29
Needwine999 · 05/07/2022 18:00
Thanks, she was fine until about 6 months ago, lots of eye rolling and I just cant do anything right :(
goldfinchonthelawn · 05/07/2022 15:37
I genuinely believe that you need to mirror this sort of behaviour. It's not a popular theory. Most people say 'Oh she;s just being a teen.' But why should you put up with it. `Next time she starts, interrupt her and in an identical sneering tone, criticise the way she stands., mock her hair, her clothes, really lay into her until she looks worried. Actually upset her. Then stop and say you don't mean a word of it. But you needed her to hear the effect her criticism was having on you, and understand why it is so wrong.
I would also do zero for her. DS1 tried this with me. It lasted about 24 hours because I mirrored him and challenged him and also absolutely refused to do anything for him. I just said: 'I can't drive you 50 miles to your sports meet at the weekend because I never do favours for people who bully and belittle me. It's just a policy I have to ensure I keep my self esteem. the same applies to washing and cooking. I need a wholehearted apology and you never do it again or you can sort yourself out without my hekp from now on.'
I got a genuine apology.
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