Feel like my teen daughter hates me at times

[Needwine999]

She is just horrible to me 80% of the time, whatever I do or say is wrong, what I wear, how i walk, stand, breathe? She is just so unpleasant I'm in tears a lot atm. She is almost 18 i cant bear much more some days. she was lovely and adored me once, any advice x

update my dd is now lovely and this was just a phase, so anyone in this situation, it does get better !

Thank you! Good to know.

Just realised this was an old thread

I am going through this.
we were great and now she seems to hate me.
She just hates everything I say, the way I am. She shows this hate infront of people, mocks me, tries to humiliate me it feels. She knows how to push my buttons. Then when I get upset , she says Im pathetic and I make everything about me. If I say no or something she doesn’t like she will tell me Im a horrible person.
all I ever wanted to be is a good mam, I work hard , try my best, this is actually destroying me . I feel like I’ve lost control coz im actually scared of her reaction to things.

Me too. My DD was like a mini me a couple of years ago, now she screams at me to get out, leave her alone, stop talking, so I can’t even have a conversation about how I feel as she just shuts me down and shouts over me. I’ve been in tears all weekend, and if she sees me crying she just tells me to stop crying. I spend all my time ferrying her and her friends around, making them tea, buying her toiletries and clothes which I can’t afford to do. She’s 14 and I’ve finally got divorced, and I feel like I’ve moved from one horrible person controlling me to another one. I think I’m realising that I need to stop being a doormat, set some boundaries, take the verbal and not give in. I just don’t want to lose her as she has a strained relationship with her dad who is controlling and if I’m not her calm space then I’m worried she’ll not have anywhere to decompress and she’ll get worse. I can’t go on like this. It’s awful.

My daughter 18 in a few weeks. 5 jobs shes had and quit doesn't think she should work says its not enough money so i say ok if not working you need to clean the flat she said shes not being a slave and has run off turnt location off. Im Adamant shes at a mates behind my flat but its so nasty entitled the things she has said to me is absolutely vile. Id of never dared spoke to anyone like that at her age. So hurtful getting me down alot. Im trying to work and be happy when i just want to scream. I genuinely do not know what to do with her anymore. So manipulative no empathy at all or respect. Ruins my clothes leaves her room a state plates cups dirty washing. I honestly have no idea what to do anymore.