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Ds 15 is very small and doesn't seem to be growing.

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Lilyana · 05/05/2022 19:22

DS 15 is 5ft 3, by far the smallest boy in his class/year. I'm 5ft 6 and they always say boys are taller than their mums. He hasn't grown since last November. Is there a chance he will have a growth spurt later on even though he seems to have stopped for a while?

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Lilyana · 06/05/2022 08:14

BertieBotts · 05/05/2022 23:22

Boys have their growth spurt a bit later than girls.

I don't think boys are always taller than their mums, it's probably an average thing - women are on average shorter, most women choose men for relationships who are taller than them, so the height genes are going to be somewhere around or in between the parents' heights and since boys are taller than girls on average, more likely closer to the dad's and therefore taller than the mum. But there will be some boys who end up shorter.

The growth charts here have some information on growth during puberty.
www.rcpch.ac.uk/resources/uk-who-growth-charts-2-18-years

I'm taller than DH so will be interesting to see how his final.height works out. I'm taller than average female, he's a smaller than average male.

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GetThatHelmetOn · 06/05/2022 08:19

How about dairy? I see a lot of fruit but not many vegetables.

With DS I insisted in at least 2 x100gr of protein a day, he was dairy intolerant but ate broccoli like crazy to make up for the lost calcium intake. I was told by a nutritionist that fruits are far less important than vegetables so you may want to increase vegetable intake as well.

JudgeRindersMinder · 06/05/2022 08:24

My ds was exactly the same at 15, and like you I was quietly concerned. I’m 5’7, dh is 6’, BUT dd is only 5’3…the women in dh’s side of the family are generally quite short which is where dd has got it from. I was quite concerned that ds was going that way.
He turned 16 and 4 months later he started to grow. In the space of 5 months he grew 6”, and some days he got up in the morning and I’d look and think “you’ve grown overnight”!
He’s 20 next week and is now 6’2.

Lilyana · 06/05/2022 08:25

GetThatHelmetOn · 06/05/2022 08:19

How about dairy? I see a lot of fruit but not many vegetables.

With DS I insisted in at least 2 x100gr of protein a day, he was dairy intolerant but ate broccoli like crazy to make up for the lost calcium intake. I was told by a nutritionist that fruits are far less important than vegetables so you may want to increase vegetable intake as well.

Oat Milk, he won't drink milk, I make sure I get the one fortified with calcium and also he likes tofu, calcium set and yes he eats loads of veg as well.

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JudgeRindersMinder · 06/05/2022 08:26

You updated with his diet as I was posting, he’s eating way too little protein. Yes he has lots of lovely seeds and fruit, but that doesn’t help growth, growth is all about protein.

Lilyana · 06/05/2022 08:30

JudgeRindersMinder · 06/05/2022 08:26

You updated with his diet as I was posting, he’s eating way too little protein. Yes he has lots of lovely seeds and fruit, but that doesn’t help growth, growth is all about protein.

Tofu, beans, lentils are all protein aren't they?

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GetThatHelmetOn · 06/05/2022 08:30

Milk substitutes are not really milk substitutes nutritionally speaking, he is getting far too little calcium on his diet. Mine was also raised on milk substitutes but you really need to find other sources of calcium intake to make up for it.

GetThatHelmetOn · 06/05/2022 08:32

Lilyana · 06/05/2022 08:30

Tofu, beans, lentils are all protein aren't they?

Yes but not the type of protein that makes tall populations, I am afraid.

Seasidemumma77 · 06/05/2022 08:32

My older 2ds and 2db all had massive growth spurts between 16 and 18yrs old, all now between 6ft2 and 6ft6.

allgoneaway · 06/05/2022 08:35

I'm a worrier so I'd go to the GP for peace of mind. My brother was two years older than me but I completely over took him in height when he was 13 and I was 11. Turns out he had a brain tumour. After the operation to remove it he grew 6 inches in 6 weeks!! Please don't worry though as he had LOADS of other symptoms, but I'd always see the GP for cases like this so I never have those "if only I" moments

Glitternails1 · 06/05/2022 08:45

@Lilyana So I'm 5ft 6.5 and dad 5ft 5
My family are all tall, brother 6ft +, mum 5ft 9 etc.. DH dad much taller than him, sisters all tiny. So a proper mix. Obviously genetically he's probably not going to be tall, predicted height using calculator says 5ft 7 however I'm more converted he seems to have stopped growing already.

Glitternails1 · 06/05/2022 08:47

@Lilyana not sure why the rest of my post didn’t post!

If his dad and paternal aunties are short then I don’t think your ds will grow anymore, especially as he’s 15. He also doesn’t seem to eat enough for his age and sex and maybe activity level too. Diet and genetics result in how much you’ll grow.

Girliefriendlikespuppies · 06/05/2022 08:52

Is he vegan? A restricted diet is probably not helping tbh.

HesDeadBenYouCanStopNow · 06/05/2022 08:52

My cousin grew nearly a foot at 16, he's now 6'5" he went from one of the shortest to the tallest by end of school.

All our children carried on growing at least until 20

sickofthisnonsense · 06/05/2022 08:54

I thought boys don't finish growing until 21

Lilyana · 06/05/2022 09:03

Girliefriendlikespuppies · 06/05/2022 08:52

Is he vegan? A restricted diet is probably not helping tbh.

Yes, but he won't budge on that. However I'm part of a group on fb and lots of the people on there have huge children. There are lots children that are meat eaters that eat very poorly.

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tomatoandherbs · 06/05/2022 09:11

He’s vegan?

i would be concerned about my 15 year old ds, at such a critical point in his physical development, having a restricted diet.

you need to lay it down straight to him.

his current diet may well have serious long term implications on his physical development

tomatoandherbs · 06/05/2022 09:13

Added to which his father is very short indeed for a man so he’s not got genetics on his side

tomatoandherbs · 06/05/2022 09:15

I am a committed vegetarian, practically a vegan in fact
but I would be very concerned if my son went down this path before 20

Lilyana · 06/05/2022 09:22

tomatoandherbs · 06/05/2022 09:15

I am a committed vegetarian, practically a vegan in fact
but I would be very concerned if my son went down this path before 20

I can't do anything about it as he absolutely will not budge on his decision. All I can do is make sure he has the best vegan diet possible which is better than a lot of meat eating children eat. I have a friend who's child only eats beige food....is that better?

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tomatoandherbs · 06/05/2022 09:28

Fair enough then.
He makes his choice
He is worried about never getting a girlfriend (to be fair, I’m OLD and I discount any many under 5’7 so he has a point. Height is a factor for many women) but not enough to do the one thing he can do to possibly assist his physical diet.
literally the ONLY thing available with physical development that we can do to potentially assist is diet.
he makes his choice. Hopefully he won’t regret it

tomatoandherbs · 06/05/2022 09:29

Do you have other children?
if so how is their height?

JustHereWithMyPopcorn · 06/05/2022 09:32

You definitely need to supplement the protein, that is not enough for a boy going through a time when he should be doing some serious growing. If he wont eat meat or meat products then you need some proper advice from a health professional as to the best way to get enough protein in him.

Lilyana · 06/05/2022 09:36

tomatoandherbs · 06/05/2022 09:28

Fair enough then.
He makes his choice
He is worried about never getting a girlfriend (to be fair, I’m OLD and I discount any many under 5’7 so he has a point. Height is a factor for many women) but not enough to do the one thing he can do to possibly assist his physical diet.
literally the ONLY thing available with physical development that we can do to potentially assist is diet.
he makes his choice. Hopefully he won’t regret it

I know many women are the same. Hopefully a woman will love him for who he is regardless of his size.

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Lilyana · 06/05/2022 09:38

tomatoandherbs · 06/05/2022 09:29

Do you have other children?
if so how is their height?

A daughter who's 5ft 1 and nearly 13. Like I say genetically we aren't going to be that tall I was just concerned as he's stopped growing. I have requested a GP callback and will see what he says.

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