Phone in room at night?

[Felic23]

Who let's there young teenager keep there phone in their room at night? My Son is 13 and is adamant everyone is allowed their phones in room and all his friends talk at night and he's the only one not allowed.

We all have ours on the hall table overnight. No real reason. Habit.

My DD always had her phone. Did her no damage , graduated at the top of her class and is a successful adult now. I think it will depend on the kid if they can be responsible or not.

No screens in bedrooms. Adults included.

No way. The claim all his friends are allowed I would treat as likely as if it were something a man says to an OW.

No phones in bedroom in this house.
Including adults.

Nope.
18 and 16, 18 year old has ADHD and would happily be on it all night.

They moan constantly about having to keep phones downstairs overnight, but I’m still not happy to relent; mine stays downstairs, and I want a decent night’s sleep, without wondering whether they’re still awake.

Those who don’t allow phones in rooms, what do you do about laptops? Dd has an Apple MacBook and can use all the apps on there! But taking that away too would result in stress as she needs it for homework.

But she doesn't need it for homework whilst she is sleeping. We have no tech in rooms after a certain time. I'm aware this isn't for everyone but it works for us.

@Ducksurprise it’s difficult for night owls who do homework late. My dd is autistic and often struggles with homework and it would stress even more to have a time limit. But then I have the problem of her messsging friends at all hours. Arrgghhh - so difficult!

No. No chance. No devices at all. Why do they need them when sleeping?

Homework is done at a reasonable time and never at night/ after bed time. I won’t support bad habits, but I will encourage good ones.

My DD plugs her phone into charge in the lounge as she goes to bed to sleep. She knows it's a temptation to look at it if it's in her room and she knows she needs to sleep.

Out teens have always been allowed, well one is 18 now anyway. They just had them charging on their desks. They’ve both always been responsible, youngest doesn’t have or want tiktok or snapchat. There’s definitely some teens that would need to leave their phones downstairs.

I've a 13 year old.

Absolutely no phones in rooms overnight. Of course he tells us we're weird and over the top, all his friends are allowed.

I don't want the temptation there for him to be on it during the night. It goes on charge in another room when we go to bed usually 10pm.

I gave up about 14, when we discovered a second phone. So just wifi goes off at night. And their phones are on PAYG, so not much data.

As a 30 year old, I cannot be trusted with my phone at night. I cannot tell you the number of times I've been awake until 1/2am just scrolling and chatting.

I definitely would not trust my teenage self with a phone, although 15 years ago all I could use my phone for was playing music to get to sleep.

@secretsqizzle

Yes.. 7 children. 3 mine and 4 dsc 50/50

All had their phones.. now all grown up and none appear damaged

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It's not about "damage" per se. It's about inadequate sleep. There is plenty of research that shows lack of sleep is bad for you. There is also research that allows the blue light from phones affects the quality of sleep.

Mine are all adults so obviously their decision now but they generally either turn them off, put them in airplane mode or on do not disturb. I didn't allow phones in rooms until they finished school.

@OchonAgusOchonOh but that only applies if they are on them
Mine had them as always used for alarms but they are closed and they aren't on them as they aren't huge users if messaging apps etc anyway so for that reason I had no issue with them being in their rooms at night

My 13 year old keeps his phone however down time is set and passworded for 10.30pm until 7.00am week nights and 11.30pm until 8.00am Sat night.

No for 13 and 12 year old … that’s when I take them to charge them

[quote worriedatthistime]@OchonAgusOchonOh but that only applies if they are on them
Mine had them as always used for alarms but they are closed and they aren't on them as they aren't huge users if messaging apps etc anyway so for that reason I had no issue with them being in their rooms at night [/quote]
It can also apply if the phone is on and they are getting messages with noise or vibration.

The problem is that teenagers don't tend to have great impulse control so if they are in to their phones, which the majority are, it is very easy for them to go on it before sleep or stay on it late. It's easier if the temptation isn't there on in the first place. If you are happy that they're not going on their phones, then it's not an issue. Unfortunately, most teenagers are in to their phones so it's just easier to remove temptation.

lol at the "everyone else" claim. Steel yourself for another four years of this.

Not at 13. As a teacher I see loads of knackered kids who are on their phones all night.

@sweetbellyhigh

lol at the "everyone else" claim. Steel yourself for another four years of this.

Unfortunately though there are a large number of teens who are allowed. You just have to look at the number of notifications your child wakes up to to see that lots of parents are not restricting their use of devices overnight.

@CatsArePeople

I gave up about 14, when we discovered a second phone. So just wifi goes off at night. And their phones are on PAYG, so not much data.

Good point @CatsArePeople most kids are smart and can get round these things. Lots of second accounts on SM, parents only know about the main one 🙄

Out of interest, what time do you turn off your wifi?