I Poured coffee over DC laptop

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I lost the plot. DC 16 is lazy and selfish, they were fussing and deliberately knocked my coffee and spilt it when I was trying to sort out their laptop. I just picked it up and poured it on the laptop, no idea why I did it, I shocked myself. DC went crazy, shouting and crying, and threw my cup against wall, staining it etc. Laptop is broke. It’s such a mess, no idea how we got here, we used to have a great relationship.

[quote thunderandsunshine01]@Movingonup22 you’ve actually tried to suggest that this is abuse, that the OP is violently abusing her DC. The only logical explanation I can come up with for such an extreme accusation from your part is that you are so far into the frilly parenting style that you cannot possibly fathom a mother acting upon their own emotions, rather than that of their bratty almost adult aged child?[/quote]
The response shouldn't come from an emotional place.

Feel however you feel and process the reality of your emotions yourself but you should be better than to emotionally react to your child's behaviour. When you do, the response is less about the child, the events or parenting them: it's about making you feel less angry/hurt/whatever.

And, yes, in another context, this website would call this behaviour abusive.

@Lampface @girlmom21

Hmmmm wonder why the OP lost it ? The 16 year old is an innocent victim here 🤣 give it a break

[quote whysoserious123]**@Lampface* @girlmom21*

Hmmmm wonder why the OP lost it ? The 16 year old is an innocent victim here 🤣 give it a break [/quote]
The 16 year old was probably being an arse but that doesn't excuse her parents behaviour.

If you were arguing with your husband and he broke whatever you were arguing about would you think "oh well that was my fault - I better replace it as I wound him up a bit"?

@girlmom21

That's right let's a build a society where children can be disrespectful and push their parents to the limit. The 16 year old knows what they have done. I change my mind the 16 year old doesn't need to do chores to pay for the laptop the 16 year old doesn't deserve one. Pushing your parents to that point is appalling and shouldn't be tolerated.

[quote whysoserious123]@girlmom21

That's right let's a build a society where children can be disrespectful and push their parents to the limit. The 16 year old knows what they have done. I change my mind the 16 year old doesn't need to do chores to pay for the laptop the 16 year old doesn't deserve one. Pushing your parents to that point is appalling and shouldn't be tolerated. [/quote]
Ok then let's build a society where we just destroy each other's belongings when we don't like their behaviour then make them take responsibility for it.

Interesting that you chose to ignore the question.

If OP was being a dick to the 16 year old and so they poured coffee over OP's laptop you'd still blame the child.

@girlmom21
There was no question your talking about a different situation. I'm talking about this one

Well all op has really done is made sure her DC, who have pushed her to the limit, will now have a brand new laptop!