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16yo dd upset by chosen text. Not sure how to handle this.

58 replies

Flamingoose · 22/02/2022 03:28

Her 'text' is a movie. It is age appropriate.

Some quotes from a review:
The teacher brutally abuses his students, and the realism of it is terrifying. Very intense.

Although a music-themed film, the film is extremely intense throughout as well as emotional. In particular, his treatment of his students is incredibly disturbing, to the point of outright cruelty, and will upset most viewers.

Some of the scenes in the film can be very intense and unexpected for sensitive viewers.

It also contains a lot of angry shouting, which she finds overwhelming.

She was in tears in the loo after watching it in class today and dreading having to watch it again. She says everyone else seems fine about it.

She is thinking she could email her teacher and explain that she's struggling with it. She is a high achieving student and generally gets straight As in English. She really doesn't want to irritate the (new) teacher or jeopardise her grade, but she also doesn't want to sit through this film multiple times this term.

Does she...
a) Just get on with it?
b) Ask her teacher for an alternative / ask to use the screenplay instead / tell her teacher she's struggling?
c) Not say anything, watch it at home no sound, subtitles on (less scary) and unfortunately be absent in English, but still submit good work?
d) another option

OP posts:
Comefromaway · 22/02/2022 17:02

@Skinnymimi

This movie IS NOT ok for 15/16 yo. It has no historical importance (ie a movie about WW2 etc) and depicts abuse and humiliation. It is an adult movie.
To be fair, no one has said it is 15 year olds watching it. At this stage in the school year it’s not going to be Year 11, it’s going to be a 6th Former.
Skinnymimi · 22/02/2022 19:24

The Title states 16yo Dd

Comefromaway · 22/02/2022 20:16

@Skinnymimi

The Title states 16yo Dd
Exactly.

But this close to GCSE’s, even if it’s GCSE/Film Studies (& the OP said English) all set texts are going to be done and dusted and it will be mostly revision from now on. The OP also talked about straight A’s which are A level grades, not GCSE.

So we can safely assume it’s a class of 16/17 year old A level students.

Flamingoose · 23/02/2022 03:00

No, the class is 15 /16 yrs old. We are at the start of the school year here. She's the UK equiv of Term 1, 5th form.

OP posts:
Flamingoose · 23/02/2022 03:02

Anyway, the teacher got back to her and was entirely reasonable about the whole thing. Appreciated dd reaching out and being honest. Teacher has offered alternative. Dd went to the library for the class showing today, there won't be another showing in class.

OP posts:
theculture · 23/02/2022 04:23

Well done DD for dealing with the upsetting situation and well done teacher for respecting her wishes!

sashh · 23/02/2022 05:40

She sounds like a fabulous young woman.

sillysmiles · 23/02/2022 13:22

@theculture

Well done DD for dealing with the upsetting situation and well done teacher for respecting her wishes!
This.

Well done to both!

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