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DD’s friends cancelled on her for NYE

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mumontherun14 · 30/12/2021 20:02

Oh I feel so sorry for her. She had invited a few friends over from another town they are all 14/15. We were going out for a meal so would have left them in for a few hours with snacks etc. She’d bought a lovely dress & got her nails done & was looking forward to it. Now none of them are coming as too hard to get lifts home which I thought might happen as the mums & dads will likely have a drink. I’ve offered her to come with us for the meal (no way eye roll), to go to her aunties with her wee cousins (again she says no). I’ve said she can invite a school pal
Up but it’s a bit last minute. She says she’ll just stay in with the dogs. We are just local for a meal with friends but now I’m feeling I should leave the meal early & come & see the new year in with her so she’s not on her own…

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NerrSnerr · 30/12/2021 20:06

Would the friends be able to sleep over? That's what we did as teens for new year for the very same reason.

Frazzled2207 · 30/12/2021 20:06

Is is doable to invite all the girls over for a small party/sleepover at yours?

Am surprised that the lifts issue has only become a problem now.

Givemeallthegin8 · 30/12/2021 20:07

Can they sleep over?

Fastforwardtospring · 30/12/2021 20:07

Can the friends not stay over?

AnnaSW1 · 30/12/2021 20:09

I'd ask them to sleep over too

Hellocatshome · 30/12/2021 20:09

I'm assuming the girls didn't explain properly to their parents they would need picking up. I have a 14 year old for all the different technologies they have they still can't bloody communicate important information. Can they not stay over?

Mrsjayy · 30/12/2021 20:09

They maybe didn't ask their parents teenagers can be thoughtless so when they said can we go over the "Emma" the parents said no. Can they stay or can you give them lifts , ?

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mumontherun14 · 30/12/2021 20:10

Thanks! She is really friendly with 2 of them but the rest she doesn’t know as well they are their friends from school & it’s a different school. Could ask the 2 maybe. Also got my sons new girlfriend staying over so he’s already on the sofa after their party so limited for space! Xx

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FindingMeno · 30/12/2021 20:10

I agree. Sleepover is the answer.

Kitkat151 · 30/12/2021 20:10

I would have thought any invite for NYE would include a sleepover?

JohnSmithDrive · 30/12/2021 20:11

Yes, if you're going to invite teens NYE, it has to include staying.

Everyonejustshush · 30/12/2021 20:11

To be honest if there weren’t plans for them to stay over then I’m not really surprised this has happened. I suspect they all agreed without actually confirming someone would be happy to pick up from another town after midnight.

NerrSnerr · 30/12/2021 20:11

Can't they just all go in her room on the floor? Ask them to bring a sleeping bag? If they won't fit in her room could they all sleep in the living room and your son in your daughter's room?

FindingMeno · 30/12/2021 20:11

If the sleepover thought won't work, I'd offer lifts home.

thefirstmrsrochester · 30/12/2021 20:12

Sleepover, and in terms of places to sleep, Argos is open tomorrow, get air beds.

Hellocatshome · 30/12/2021 20:14

I'm not sure it was ever really reasonable for you or her to expect her friends parents to pick them up after midnight on NYE. Invite fewer and have them stay over. If there is only a few they can top and tail in her bed and on her floor. Ask them to bring sleeping bags and a pillow.

RowsOfHolly · 30/12/2021 20:14

Have none of them said to go over to theirs instead?

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mumontherun14 · 30/12/2021 20:15

Offered the sleepover option but she’s saying no think she’s a bit upset. Was thinking we could have just left the meal & had our friends up here but we’ve paid £80 already each for the ticket so we’d lose that plus our pals looking forward to it x

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Mrsjayy · 30/12/2021 20:16

See if she wants to reinvite the closest 2( if it wont cause drama )they can bring their quilts and pillow and crash on the floor

Janus · 30/12/2021 20:17

I very much would have assumed a sleepover too! Air beds are great, bring a pillow, put a throw or two in with them as all those bodies get hot!

RhubarbFairy · 30/12/2021 20:17

If you can make space and they can sleep over, that would be ideal.

Around that age up to about 17 (when I could get away with being in the pub) that's what I did every New Year's at a friend's house. Actually, the best was often the next day when we'd lay on the living room floor in our sleeping bags, drink endless cups of tea, eat our way through those nut multipacks you get at Christmas and watch back to back films. Getting around the house was achieved by shuffle-hopping still in the sleeping bags.

I'm 39 now and would genuinely love to do that again.

Mrsjayy · 30/12/2021 20:17

What a shame she is probably hurt and a bit miffed.

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mumontherun14 · 30/12/2021 20:25

I’ve messaged one of the mums offering the lift or sleepover option so will see what happens xx

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FindingMeno · 30/12/2021 20:26

Fingers crossed something will work out Smile

Mrsjayy · 30/12/2021 20:27

Hopefully she can will come.