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Dd lying about age

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Sparkles56 · 15/10/2021 11:13

Just found out my dd 14 has been lying about her age to buy clothes online. The site she’s using says it’s over 18 only and you have to tick to confirm you’re over 18.
I’m happy with her biting her own clothes on line ;she gets an allowance) but not about her blatantly lying to me that she doesn’t lie about her age.
I know it’s not the end of world but had issues with her lying in the past and thought it had all stopped.
Any thoughts?

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BrilliantBetty · 16/10/2021 21:29

Such an over reaction.
Really silly, IMO.

You will push your DD away by being the rigid (/weird).

Leave it.

DumpedByText · 16/10/2021 21:41

My 14 year buys clothes off H&M and New Look online with her own debit card regularly, it's not like she's ordering fags and booze, you need to pick your battles!

ColdTattyWaitingForSummer · 16/10/2021 21:47

I’m usually really anti lying. Expect my dc to be honest with me. And I wouldn’t think anything of this. Ds (just 15) has a debit card, shops online, and has done for a few years. If he ticks a box on a website, so long as it’s not age restricted products, I’m not worried. I get this is part of a bigger issue for you, but I think pushing it could actually push her to be less open with you.

Autumnpurple · 16/10/2021 21:47

She’s buying clothes online? Not really lying in the sense to deceive someone!

It’s just a tick box exercise to buy clothes, god help you when she’s older if you’re worried about something as simple as that!

jesusmaryjosephandtheweedonkey · 16/10/2021 21:50

You are seriously overthinking a non issue

LadyOfTheFlowers · 16/10/2021 21:52

In response to op, I thought it wants going to be lying to but booze or something.
To buy clothes? Pick your battles.

LadyOfTheFlowers · 16/10/2021 21:54

*thought it was, not wants

GiltEdges · 16/10/2021 22:06

@Sparkles56

I’m really not sure what to do about this now! I don’t really want to ban her from online shopping until she’s 18!!! But at the save time don’t want her flung stuff she shouldn’t be. Any thoughts?

Are you always this prone to overreacting OP? Stop tying yourself up in knots over something that really doesn't matter in the grand scheme of things.

NerrSnerr · 16/10/2021 22:16

If you stop her doing something so innocent as buying a top from Zara online with her own money she's just going to stop telling you stuff.

00100001 · 16/10/2021 22:28

@Sparkles56

Just leave her to it and continue to have open conversations about what she's doing online.

There's really is nothing you need to do...

Rollergirl11 · 17/10/2021 07:46

Wow, so much angst over something so inconsequential.

ItsAlwaysThere · 17/10/2021 07:49

I used to lie about my age to get blind drunk. To buy clothes... wouldn't bother me at all!

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Sparkles56 · 17/10/2021 12:29

Thanks everyone. I think I was a bit ott.

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OliviaSquid · 17/10/2021 18:07

It's going to be a long slog for you if you don't pick your battles

Oneforthemoneytwo · 17/10/2021 18:31

I couldn’t get worked up about this

GoWalkabout · 17/10/2021 19:01

She hears 'Mum doesn't want me to lie about my age online' and comes to the reasonable conclusion 'that's because she doesn't want me to access adult material / be talking to older men / buy alcohol' and adheres to it in that spirit, but has flexible enough thinking to see the online shopping as an exception to the rule because you allow it. But perhaps you have more black and white thinking and think any transgression puts her at risk. I don't think this is an issue though, as you have accepted

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