My 17 year old daughter has tested positive for Covid and is refusing to self isloate

[katgriff877]

My daughter has always been no trouble, good girl, works hard. Has just discovered going out and socialising with friends. She has just tested positive for covid but is refusing to self isolate. She said she has had it already (all LFD's come up negative but PCR is positive) although she has never had a positive test before. I have begged her to stay in and she has just walked out. I am beside myself and don't know how to deal with it.

Thousands of kids will be doing this when they return back to school.

Although it will be possibly the parents saying 'Its just a cold or hay fever'.

Some parents are literally (especially women ) clinging to their jobs by a string.

We are at the point now were we are having to live with this.

You make your daughter sound overall that she is a lovely person. I’m sure she is.

But even lovely people have a breaking point where they just can’t do “this” anymore.

If she is normally obedient but this time not, she obviously feels very strongly about it and you should respect the fact that she is aware of her boundaries and has decided that this time, being selfish is worth it. We can’t always just keep giving.

I always abide by rules, absolutely always, even to my own detriment, but even I have had enough with how our lives have been so negatively affected in doing right by others who don’t even know us and certainly won’t thank us.

I'd be so disappointed too OP.
Where does she get money to go out with her friends- does she have a part time job or do you give her pocket money ?

Plus a pcr test can pick up an infection from 90 days. Silly thing is she didn’t even need to do a test, staying at a cousins is no reason to test. You created a rod for your own back and making your daughter wear it. It could be from when she had it before unknowingly.

@GiveMeAUserName123

You make your daughter sound overall that she is a lovely person. I’m sure she is.

But even lovely people have a breaking point where they just can’t do “this” anymore.

If she is normally obedient but this time not, she obviously feels very strongly about it and you should respect the fact that she is aware of her boundaries and has decided that this time, being selfish is worth it. We can’t always just keep giving.

I always abide by rules, absolutely always, even to my own detriment, but even I have had enough with how our lives have been so negatively affected in doing right by others who don’t even know us and certainly won’t thank us.

Whilst I've had enough of Covid too, I think mingling when you have an active Covid infection is a an absolute cunt's trick. If she was a 'contact' and chose not to isolate (pre the new rules) then I would be less judgemental.

To all other parents of awkward 17 year olds - I share your pain, it's a very 'transitional' age and difficult to navigate!!

But she did the lateral tests and they are negative. If anyone is a close contact of a covid case they would do a lateral flow for 10 days.

It’s only because her mum also ordered a pcr test, that can pick up earlier infections, that she is now having to isolate. I’m not even sure how the mum got a test for her daughter if she doesn’t have any of the symptoms, unless she lied to get it?

Did you start the same thread yesterday OP? But it got deleted?

I don't understand why she did the test?

Where is she going? Perhaps she's only going to hang out with people she's discussed it with and who are happy to take the risk. The simple act of going out isn't going to infect anyone and she's sold her festival ticket so she obviously mindful of the situation.

I'm sorry but I think you sound a bit deranged going after her in the car.

Their education, social life and mental health all shot to pieces by covid measures, a disease that is not dangerous to their age group. Being made to get a vaccination that carries more risk to them than the disease itself*

You’re spreading lies about the vaccine. You should be ashamed of that attitude.

And your “poor teenagers” attitude translates into serious illness for older people and dangerous illness for the clinically vulnerable.

I would be furious. How dare she endanger others?

Selfish. Report her.

ha,
of course you dont report your own daughter
surprising she agreed to take the test
try and be firm with her

@GiveMeAUserName123 you are supposed to take a PCR ASAP if you are identified as a contact.

She did what she was supposed to do, the LFTs. You made her do a test that wasn't required, and that's the test that's put her under these restrictions. No wonder she resents you.

I'd be focusing on being glad (and sympathetic to her) that she sold her Leeds festival tickets. Not going to that must be beyond gutting for her.

In response to her not having it, She most likely does and It is not from "before" because it stays in your system around 1 month in my experience as I had covid and tested negative two months later as did my other friends when we all had to take a PCR to travel this month and had covid mid June. Not sure if this is helpful X

When all my house tested positive the only ones who tested negative with no symptoms were the ones who had it five months ago X

It's a shame but hopefully test and trace will sort it. When I didn't fill out my forms to say who id been in contact with (because I was so tired and ill) I actually got some NHS volunteers (I think volunteers? They had rainbow badges and wore masks?) at my door to ask about my whereabouts tho I was isolating, so that may happen to her X

Biggleton, no, your not, although I understand why everyone has different views and opinion on what is supposed to be done because the rules keep constantly changing!

Track and Trace will surely call?
If they do put her on the phone make her take the call

@GiveMeAUserName123 They do keep changing and you are not up to date, I’m afraid. OPs daughter is 17. See the attached screen shot - bottom of the page.

T and t will text her and say they will send law inforcements if she doesn't answer the call. Then they ring constantly

Do you have elderly or immune compromised relatives or friends? Ask her if she'd be comfortable visiting them after a test. Then remind her that when she's out, she's surrounded by other people's family and friends. And explain in detail what happens when someone has covid badly and ends up in hospital. I think we've all become a bit jaded about the risk of harm, she needs a sharp reminder. She could cause someone's death, ultimately.

@Teamfemale but living with it doesn’t mean being out and about when you have symptoms of COVID and positive test. It’s like you shouldn’t be out and about if you have flu or norovirus. I know people do, but you shouldn’t.

Just to be absolutely clear to people on here who are questioning why OP's DD got tested; she did right thing. Contacts of positive cases are invited to take a PCR test regardless of symptoms.

www.gov.uk/government/publications/guidance-for-contacts-of-people-with-possible-or-confirmed-coronavirus-covid-19-infection-who-do-not-live-with-the-person/guidance-for-contacts-of-people-with-possible-or-confirmed-coronavirus-covid-19-infection-who-do-not-live-with-the-person

"NHS Test and Trace will contact you to let you know that you have been identified as a contact and check whether you are legally required to self-isolate. If you are not legally required to self-isolate you will be provided with advice on testing and given guidance on preventing the spread of COVID-19. Even if you do not have symptoms, you will be advised to have a PCR test as soon as possible. Children aged 4 and under will not be advised to take a test unless the positive case was someone in their own household."

OP, you have my sympathies. I think the 16-18 legalities if this is very difficult…
On the one hand it is THEIR choice whether or not they have the jab. However, it is a PARENTS responsibility to endure they self isolate… very strange legal ground…

She may not be mature in her thinking yet. My train of thought is "I test positive but have no symptoms, so I continue to go out as usual, and I pass on the virus to my friend or the stranger sitting near me in Costa. They pass it to their Mum. Their Mum dies."
Perhaps show her this thread?

Crikey we don't know where she's going... I'm sure she's not on a one woman granny killing mission.

She shouldn't be going anywhere if she is positive @helentomelon