Should I let my teenager be late for school. Nightmare in mornings.

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My ds 13, nearly 14 is really hard work in the mornings. Its exhausting by the time he is out the door. He goes to bed at a reasonable time but just can not get himself going it the morning. His alarm even at the loudest setting will not wake him. To just get him out it takes several times of me coaxing him out. He can't find anything in the mornings even though I check with him every evening that he has everything ready. There are always last minute dramas where he can't find his phone, glasses, suddenly needs the toilet. I end up saving him every morning and sometimes drive him, even though walking distance just so I save him from having a sanction. DH says he needs to learn and to let him be late but I feel my job as a parent is to make sure he isn't...I don't know what to do..

I'm not mean. I've had this issue with our son and it was a nightmare. A simple rule of leave phone downstairs at bedtime is hugely beneficial. He's now well rested and happy. It's also a safeguarding measure

Tricky one. Some people definitely find it harder in the mornings. I have 3 young secondary schoolers and the youngest (age 12) really struggles in the morning. She's always had a later body clock (as does her dad) and this is getting more pronounced as she approaches teens. The other two find it much easier, and that's not really her fault.
But...to an extent, that's life.
I think it depends a bit on his attitude. Does he want to get better at it, or does he know and expect you'll bail him out? Could you try an arrangement where he can call in a couple of lifts a week (and sleep later those days!), but he's on his own the other days, for example?
And, yes, agree with the people who've said no phone in the bedroom at night. That's definitely the best house rule I've made and stuck to firmly for this stage of life.

Most teens were remote learning and doing live lessons so their body clocks shouldn't be massively out of whack. They have to get up earlier to do their hair and travel to school which is tiring so my teens are going to bed earlier for now.