DS speech - he's dropping ts, and sounding rough 😓

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DS 15 doesn't sound like us anymore - he listens to lots of YouTube football chat I think and is dropping ts everywhere, using some rough slang - what would you do? Constantly nagging just feels awful and is exhausting 😪 😞 😓

Get a grip

Leave him alone!

😂😂😂

Lol my 13 yr old has started saying 'I wanna go toilet' we just take the mick it will pass

Poor boy!
Maybe he's really pleased to not sound like you anymore, if you don't mind me saying, you sound an awful snob!!!

This made me smile- thanks

Send him to a Swiss finishing school

Surely this is a joke?

Copy him.

He's not a small child, he knows how to speak properly so it's up to him.

Maintain standards in your home such as no swearing if that's your thing but otherwise leave it to him.

With mine I corrected when they were small and as they grew up I emphasised the benefits of being able to speak correctly in the appropriate circumstances but that they can speak however they choose amongst their friends etc.

Seems to work. I guess he's now doing it to wind you up? Just have a conversation rather than constantly nagging, I mean would you like someone constantly correcting your speech?

🤣🤣 finishing school is the only sensible option. Or banish him from the family?

Mh dad always picked me up on my speech and corrected me.

Everyone I've met always says how well I speak.

I don't think I speak well and I certainly don't because of my dads nagging. I sound no different now than I did 25 years ago 🤷‍♀️

I bet that if you started doing it he'd find you embarrassing and stop.

Thanks guys - your replies made me smile and I'll try chilling out 🙏❤

Maybe don't nag him? Just a thought.

And if my ds speaks slang or lazy talk I just ask him nicely to repeat.

Ask him what "he was jelly" means etc.

Or the bigger annoying one and for example with "he was jelly" I respond with things like "oh what flavour. He he dress himself up and become a trifle"

Ds just naturally started using English when talking go to me as it was much quicker - and therefore much more suited to teen life where talking with your parents must be quick and Infrequent

WaxOn - Yes to conversation not nagging , constantly modelling correct speech/ no bad language etc 🙂 like your comment re appropriate language/ manners at appropriate time 🙏

That was me between the ages of 11 and 16. I just wanted to fit in.

Then a boyfriend told me that I would never get a job if I continued to speak like that. By then the "rough crowd" had left school and I didn't feel the need to fit in with anyone, so I started to speak properly again.

I expect it is just a phase. You could point out that he can speak how he likes with his friends, but maybe speak as you would like him to at home. It might be important for future college/university/job interviews.

Itsgettingweird - good idea to ask to repeat the weird/ inappropriate phrases 🤣

OP, you'll get a roasting about being a snob but I completely agree with you and feel your pain! Ours our younger (eldest is 13) and we pull them up on sloppy speech and will continue to do so until it is counter productive (ie when they are know-it-all teens).

I'm sure by 15 your DS will have absolutely no problems in switching back to speaking correctly as soon as it becomes in his best interests to do so (girlfriend, job, uni etc) so I'd just quietly roll my eyes and ignore it for now.

Yes ginfordinner I hope it is just a phase......

I went from being at a private school with a very posh accent (I got an assisted place to go there, we weren’t rich) to going to a very rough state school when I was 13 and I almost overnight started to copy the accent. My mum was horrified. I just wanted to be like everyone else. It lasted about a year or so and then I got fed up and the old me slipped back again. I wouldn’t worry too much!

Cheeseismydownfall thankyou xx I will practice some eye rolling 🙄😳🙃

This is a bug bear of mine too. One DD leaves out words …. "I'm going Bluewater", they both used to speak so nicely.

Can you give some examples? Where are you from/what accent do you have?