Helping my sons girlfriend with birth control?

[snappyoldfart]

Wonder if anyone can help me navigate this, my son and his girlfriend are having sex they are both 16, I'm aware of this as my DS is open with me, and talked about being careful etc.

But her mum isn't aware and she has told my DS she like like to go on the pill, they are just using condoms at the moment.

But she won't ask her mum, or talk to her mum at all, she can't get to the GP herself as she can't drive and they're are no busses.

I'm in the other side as my mum was very supporting and helped me when I was young to get to the GP and be safe, is there anywhere online she could use? Or any advice.

I don't really want to get involved as she's not my daughter but if I can help without causing an issue then they are safer.

Some info
www.nhs.uk/live-well/sexual-health/getting-contraception/

@Soontobe60 thank you, I'm hoping she can get to a clinic somewhere, that's really helpful I wasn't aware they could provide without parents knowledge.

If she needs help getting to a clinic, I would definitely take her. She has the right to get contraception, and this decision is none of her parent's business. You wouldn't be doing anything wrong in helping her.

Surely from your sons point of view it's better he uses a form of contraception he can control?

I would help by taking her to a clinic or to the GP. They sound like they are being sensible wanting to access contraception.

Super drug do online consultations but the pill isn’t free from them.

@Aquamarine1029 do you think so? I feel her mum would feel so betrayed if I stepped over the mark in this area.

It's what I want to do, is just take her with me and help her get it sorted foe them both as extra protection.

Surely in Covid times the GP will do the appointment over the phone and send the prescription to the pharmacy?

@PurpleFrames my understanding from my DD is that they would use both.

He's also mentioned she gets awful cramps and moods and she feels the pill may help with that as well.

*DS

Surely she just makes an appointment at her doctor’s and asks for the pill? She’s 16, she doesn’t need parental permission.

[quote snappyoldfart]@Aquamarine1029 do you think so? I feel her mum would feel so betrayed if I stepped over the mark in this area.

It's what I want to do, is just take her with me and help her get it sorted foe them both as extra protection. [/quote]
Her mum shouldn't feel betrayed, she should feel ashamed. That her daughter doesn't feel able to speak to her about contraception in this day and age is a dire failing on her part as a parent.

Lots of sexual health services have moved to telephone and online services. Google your local young persons information advice and guidance offer.
Or tell me your area and I’ll find it.

@Ohalrightthen that's an option but neither of them drive and she is remote, so relies on lifts from her parents. But that's a good solution if there is a pharmacy close to her college she can access at lunch times.

@RunningFromInsanity

Surely she just makes an appointment at her doctor’s and asks for the pill? She’s 16, she doesn’t need parental permission.

Did you read the post? She has no way of getting to the GP by herself.

However they are likely to do it over the phone at the moment.

You don't need to take on responsibility here, just give her a lift.

She can make her own appointment and I'd defo drive her but as the mum of a 16 year old who had a bad reaction to the pill (made her seriously anxious, over emotional and tearful) she should really tell her mum. Mine has got the implant in now and is getting on great with it and it reassures me she wont forget the pill and fall pregnant like I did.

She definitely doesnt need her parents permission or consent to see a GP nor should the gp tell them that is totally confidential at her age.

At 16 she's old enough to get the pill without involving her parents, so the only real involvement you would have would be giving her a lift (it's actually likely that it would be a phone appointment anyway).

It's no different to giving her a lift to anywhere else she couldn't get to.

Plus, I think it's a really responsible decision to make on her part.

She should really try and talk to her mum.
I would hate if my dd had to get help from another mum.
I helped my dd choose what she wanted and she got the bar as she was afraid she would miss taken the pill a day and then it wouldn't work
Does her mum know she has a boyfriend

Thank you all, I agree I was a bit concerned overstepping the line here.

Interesting about the reactions to the different brands as well I know she does struggle a bit with emotions, but I'm not sure on the full scope so I could just tell her to keep a diary of how she's feeling maybe and make sure she's not having side effects.

@Andi2020 her mum does know she has a boyfriend and enables them to meet up when they can with all restrictions in place, they have been together a year, so I kind of assumed her mum would understand this talk was needed.

I'm only gets 2nd had info via my DS who has just said he's concerned as she won't talk to her mum about anything, and she would like the pill.

He only told me this today hence my quick post to get some guidance on how I can help them.

Pretty sure her mum would rather you have her daughter a lift without her knowing than her daughter getting pregnant

*sorry that mean to say I only get second hand info...

But yes a sexual health clinic, specially a young person clinic (U21) can help and may be the best options as I know lots of GPS (mine included) don't do contraception anymore.