Would you let a 14yr old go to a birthday party sleepover of a person you do not know whose parents you have never met?

[slowreader]

Because I don't want to.

I'd be concerned about the judgement of someone who thinks American Pie is ok for an 11yo too

That's a very good point, www.

i watched american pie when i was 11. don't think it scarred me too much...

Nappyaddict, my 12 year old ds has seen quite a lot of movies which are aimed at an older audience. He is very mature, sensible and I feel its up to me as a parent to know when to draw the line. BUT, I wouldn't let any of his friends watch the same movies in my house without having checked first with their parents.

Still find the whole thing of not knowing for sure where your child is/ who they are with quite disturbing, and I would say I am quite liberal as a parent compared to some of my friends.

we always used to watch them at sleepovers and we would just pick ourselves what we wanted to watch. the parents wouldn't know. in fact i was watching 18's at that age.

my parents would always know who's house i was stopping at but they wouldn't necessarily know where that house was.

and i never thought my parent's were that liberal.