Teenage hair dye disaster. My problem?

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DSD14 (nearly 15) has been nagging to go blonde. She has dark hair.

Eventually, DH and I agreed, but on the proviso that it was done gradually and under the control of a trusted hairdresser.

Went to a local salon in December, set out a plan of highlights then, another set early March, another set in June. Lots of conditioning, and a gradual process.

She’s saved her Christmas money to have it done, and all agreed. Fine. Lovely.

She announced on Wednesday that she wants white blonde NOW. I said to the best of my limited knowledge it physically can't be done, and that we have a plan for a reasonable outcome and that certainly WASN'T white blonde. She said ‘it can, I’m doing it.’ Went back and forth for bloody ages, told her how it would end, showed her pics of crispy orange hair etc etc. Ended up with her agreeing, and saying the original plan was the best idea.

However. She’s just badly box dyed her hair. It’s patchy, orange and looks horrendous. I predict through-the-roof hysteria when she realises that no amount of purple shampoo will tone down this shit show.

So, do I brace my bank card and make an emergency do-what-you-can hairdressers appointment, or let her manage the consequences herself? Whether that be riding the ‘look’ out, or choosing to get it rectified. Obviously, (some of) the money to correct it as best it can be is there, she’s saved it for her original highlights.

Im torn between saying ‘you made the choice, you manage it’ and also not wanting to send her into school on Monday looking like a loaf of tiger bread so forcibly stepping in.

What do I do?

Out of kindness I would make that emergency appointment at the hairdressers, we all learn by our mistakes !

My dd done this and I just got her to buy a dark one in the shop to put over it as a quick fix. It is funny that they think they know it all but us mums always know best

Oh what a muppet! I did the same at 20.had never gone that light before, wanted to go purple and knew it wouldn't take in my very dark hair so my friend suggested blonde first then purple. It went an awesome bright purple for about a week. Then it faded and add it faded I had a multicoloured mop on my head. It was ridiculous not luckily I had to wear a helmet for work most of the time so not a huge issue

Bless her! I have very dark hair which my extremely patient hairdresser lifts to almost white before rainbow colours go on - I would say to your dsd that although it can take two six hour appts with a week's gap, it's worth doing it slowly and properly x

If anything she's got her bad hair phrase over and done with at an early age. Make sure you get a photo for prosperity.

If she wants to go down the hairdressers route help her but she has to do the making the appointment phone call. Just be there to give her a lift and a hand hold whilst she phones round

If all else fails it's February so she can get away with woollie hats so you can help her pick one out.

Hi I posted about my 13 yr old and her stinking attitude earlier and her wanting to sleep downstairs ( more to it than that) and I said no it’s bed time (10.35) Someone said why didn’t I let her sleep downstairs, I didn’t because it’s completely out of the norm for her and there is no need for her to sleep downstairs...
it’s difficult for you. I’m not sure how I would react either but feel that while you correct things they are not learning.
I have managed to turn off the internet to her phone tonight because she sits up on it

She’s 15 and IMO too young to go full head of colour.

She over ruled you and did it her way, despite advice.

She should live with the consequences and deal with it herself (and pay for it).

Oh god. I did mine when I was a little bit older than that. I have dark brown hair and it went a lovely mélange of orange and yellow! Luckily I had a hairdresser friend who fixed it for mates rates. It look horrendous!

It sounds DS like she’s handled it very well. I’m properly impressed at a teenaged girl not acting like it’s the end of the world when she’s ruined her hair.