yay or nay...the mumsnet vote may swing a social life for my ds

[Tortington]

a while back my son aid he was stoppng at a friends.

as i used to say that when i was dating my dh i always check that the kids are where they say they are...becuase they are teenagers

anyway, knocked on the door and there was no-one home.

went back at midnight - no one home.

went round to the house in the am, the mother pretended they had all been home. i told her she was lying and asked where my son was - he was a few doors down with some other boys and ....... ...girls.

this was quite a few months ago.

now its the 6 week hols - he wants to sleep round this friends.

since this episode i have always told him no, that he has shit it with me now and broen the trust.

so he is givin me some speach abut earnign trust back. blah de fuckin blah.

so i feel like a shit.... he knows i will check - so he will be where he says he willbe or i'll break his bastard legs.

so.....should i give him a chance to earn his trust back? he doesn't sleep at other boys houses often ...and in general for a 14 yo he's really good.

cast your vote

the vote will close in 5 mins at which point i will deliver my verdict.

Yes

i'm erring on the yes.....

Yay

yay. but at lying mother.

let him go

yes but definatley check on him

i know at lying mother - lucky i didn't lay her out.

let him go, they have to lie otherwise they won't enjoy themselves.

carmenare - pmsl

Yes

Yes, he needs a chance to do the right thing.

Check on him this time and next time and the time after though.

yes

yes

and PMSL at breaking his bastard legs!!!

yes let him go.

Yup.

(But remind me of this in 12.5 years time...)

thanks.v.much i sadi yes

LOL at how easy it is to let other people's children do stuff!! Mine are 8 and 5 and I don't have these dilemmas yet.

i wouldn't let him

oops posted too late. please let me know that it goes ok. so I can learn

Um, does this mean you are going to blame us if it all goes horribly wrong?

I'm afraid I'd be in the "no" camp too - but because of the mother, rather than your son. I wouldn't want my child staying with somebody who i couldn't trust - find her behaviour absolutely shocking tbh.

Sorry just noticed that you've already said "yes" - in that case, I'm sure your son is fine and will appreciate your trust in him!

He wants a sleepover with his mates.
You don't trust him / lying mother.
Solution: have the sleepover at your place?