Should I let my 15 yr old daughter move out?

[georgiaind]

My DH and I have been in a disagreement concerning my 14 yr old DD moving out into the converted barn next to us. The barn is right next to the house, with all the necessities such as a loo, bed, space etc. My daughter has been begging for a while now and has asked to move as her birthday present (for her 15th). She is very responsible and I know she won't get up to anything, but I can't tell whether that'll last long! I don't want her cooped up in the barn all evenings and not coming out and spending time with the family. Although she is very extroverted person and wouldn't want to be by herself all the time! The barn right now is my office and it would be nice to move inside into the house. I just need a point of view from others to see whether I am being unreasonable or not!

I'm not a particularly strict parent but I would say it's too young. I also don't really see how it would give her any independence if it's just a place to sleep and have her friends around.

My first thought is she has a boy on the scene you may not know about. Even the nicest of our teen kids can be sneaky little buggers IME

Glad you have come to that conclusion - I feel it’s too young too.

To put it another way, boarding schools don’t have 15 yo sleeping in their own individual barns as they know that won’t allow them to provide the necessary level of pastoral care.

With no wifi I suspect you'll see a fair bit of her.