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Son’s friend unconscious on Xanax

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BeRightOnMum · 17/12/2018 14:19

At the weekend my 15 year old son had a few friends over. One girl was zonked out on his bed as she’d taken Xanax for the first time. Luckily she hadn’t had any alcohol as that’s very dangerous. I wanted to tell her parents but obviously nobody would give me her details. She was unconscious for hours but didn’t warrant an ambulance as her breathing was normal. My son made it clear to her that she’s not welcome again in that state but I’m not sure what to do if it happens again. I told her friend that if she’d been at a party or outside in that state she could get raped.

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HollowTalk · 17/12/2018 14:21

I would report that to the school, but to be honest I would have called an ambulance at the time. I don't think you could be the best judge of whether she was okay, given you might not have known exactly what she'd taken or in what quantity.

Notacluethisxmas · 17/12/2018 14:22

Why are you accepting your son and/or his friends refusing to give you the details for her?

Villanellesproudmum · 17/12/2018 14:26

Hang on a girl had taken a tranquilliser type drug and was out of it for hours and you didn’t do anything? If she had taken one pill that’s some reaction so it was mixed with something or she had an overdose either way she should have had some medical assistance!

Sycamoreleaves · 17/12/2018 14:27

You should have sought medical help for her. I would alert school.

IHaveBrilloHair · 17/12/2018 14:28

I'd have called an ambulance

Madwomanuptheroad · 17/12/2018 14:31

My son's friend died of an accidental Xanax OD ......not telling school, parents, social services etc is totally irresponsible. She may have been okay this time...
At 15 they are still young enough for parents/school to do something.

Heartofglass21 · 17/12/2018 14:34

I would have called an ambulance. You only had his word that she'd taken Xanax.

icannotremember · 17/12/2018 14:36

I'd have called an ambulance.

I'd also have told my son and his friends they could choose between giving me the details and giving them to the police.

OhLemons · 17/12/2018 14:40

I would also have called an ambulance. Not only would I be concerned for the child, I would not want the responsibility of making possibly the wrong decision about her welfare. You had no idea what, if any, underlying medical issues she has or if she was taking any other medication that may be contraindicated.

twattymctwatterson · 17/12/2018 14:42

I'm extremely surprised that a teenager was passed out for a protracted length of time having taken strong prescription drugs and you didn't seek medical attention at all. Particularly given that your own child and his friends refused to give you her parents details. That's so alien to me that it's almost unbelievable

Heartofglass21 · 17/12/2018 14:46

Who supplied her with the Xanax? How do you know it was Xanax? Had any of the others taken it? There are so many questions around this incident. If I discovered my 15yo had been unconscious for a length of time at someone's house, and no-one had sought medical advice, and no-one had attempted to contact me, I would be absolutely livid.

RatRolyPoly · 17/12/2018 14:49

If I discovered my 15yo had been unconscious for a length of time at someone's house, and no-one had sought medical advice, and no-one had attempted to contact me, I would be absolutely livid.

Me too!

LauralovesLuke · 17/12/2018 14:49

It's safeguarding. Where did she get access to Xanax for starters? You need to report to the school asap before the end of term.

Two years ago a boy who lived near me died from prescription drugs - the pupils and teachers at the school were devastated. It affects more than just that one young person.

colditz · 17/12/2018 14:56

Are you not remotely concerned about the events that led up to a 15 year old child passing out due to drug abuse in your house?

Annnnnd you don't think you should act on that at all?

What you should have done is call an ambulance for the unconscious child. I cannot believe you are asking this.

Reallybadidea · 17/12/2018 14:58

Why on earth didn't you call an ambulance? Are you medically trained to the extent that you could safely make the assessment that she didn't need medical attention? Even leaving aside the fact that she could have quite easily come to harm, a hospital trip would have at least alerted her parents.

Heartofglass21 · 17/12/2018 15:00

Even if you had only called 111, they would have raised a safeguarding concern and sent an ambulance. Are you for real? I'm hoping this is a wind up, though why someone would post about something like this, as some sort of a joke, is crazy.

LIZS · 17/12/2018 15:07

You are condoning the use of prescription-only drugs in your house, with your knowledge? She should have had medical treatment. If your ds did the same would you want or expect to be told?

goldengummybear · 17/12/2018 15:12

Next time- call an ambulance regardless of what your son says. There's no way that any of you could have known that she was ok and if she'd died or taken to hospital later because she was seriously ill then you'd surely be investigated for seriously failing to take care of the kids.

Do you know where the Xanax came from? If it was my child that supplied it then I'd be reading the riot act and there would be no sleepovers. How many of the kids had taken something at your sleepover?

goldengummybear · 17/12/2018 15:13

Your son and the others are probably only motivated by not getting their friend in trouble. They should have got their friend help

italiancortado · 17/12/2018 15:18

You have got to be joking.

Unconscious for HOURS and you did NOTHING

poobumwee · 17/12/2018 16:47

I would have called an ambulance straight away

ChristmasTwatteryDoesMyHeadIn · 17/12/2018 16:50

If I discovered my 15yo had been unconscious for a length of time at someone's house, and no-one had sought medical advice, and no-one had attempted to contact me, I would be absolutely livid.

This. I would be absolutely furious, with my child for doing it, with their friends for doing nothing and with the adults who just accepted that a passed out child on heavy duty drugs didn’t need medical attention.

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BeRightOnMum · 17/12/2018 16:56

Of course I didn’t condone it. I made very sure she hadn’t mixed it with anything else and kept an eye on her for hours. She wasn’t invited for a sleepover, she turned up and fell asleep. Meanwhile another kid vomited everywhere and I was clearing that up for hours. If it happens again I will call an ambulance.

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Blueberryhill123 · 17/12/2018 16:56

I can't believe this is real, surely no adult would be that irresponsible or stupid enough to stand by and do nothing in a situation like this.

Heartofglass21 · 17/12/2018 17:01

This gets worse. You had a houseful of 15 year olds, one unconscious, one vomiting, and you didn't think to get medical advice from anyone? Or tell their parents? I'm glad my DC aren't mates with your son.

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