Son’s friend unconscious on Xanax

[BeRightOnMum]

At the weekend my 15 year old son had a few friends over. One girl was zonked out on his bed as she’d taken Xanax for the first time. Luckily she hadn’t had any alcohol as that’s very dangerous. I wanted to tell her parents but obviously nobody would give me her details. She was unconscious for hours but didn’t warrant an ambulance as her breathing was normal. My son made it clear to her that she’s not welcome again in that state but I’m not sure what to do if it happens again. I told her friend that if she’d been at a party or outside in that state she could get raped.

'I don't want her here in that state and told her she might get raped'.
So you hosted a gathering where 15yo were taking illegal drugs, one of them was unconscious for an extended period and you did nothing? Wow.
OP you have bigger problems with your priorities than whether or not this girl attends your house again.

Of course I didn’t condone it.

But you did nothing. Which, in the nicest possible way, IS condoning it.

I made very sure she hadn’t mixed it with anything else and kept an eye on her for hours.

You don’t know what she’d taken, neither did anyone else there.

She wasn’t invited for a sleepover, she turned up and fell asleep.

Because she was wasted on Xanax.

Meanwhile another kid vomited everywhere and I was clearing that up for hours

Hours? Another incapacitated child, under your supervision.

If it happens again I will call an ambulance.

Er I’d be inclined to not allow a situation where it could happen again! Your DS needs better friends!

She was unconscious for hours but didn’t warrant an ambulance as her breathing was normal.

This is shocking. Are you a doctor? I highly doubt it because any medical professional would have the sense to get an unconscious person straight to hospital.

I didn't really think anyone could be quite so stupid. This person could have DIED.

This obviously isn't true, folks.

I wanted to tell her parents but obviously nobody would give me her details.

They would have been told to give me their details or give the police their details. Their choice.

An unknown CHILD knocked out on prescription drugs? Any responsible adult would be calling 111 AND 101.

You were obviously more concerned about being a right-on mum than that childs safety.

I am horrified you had an unconscious teenager in your house and didn’t call emergency services

What in gods name were you thinking! She could have died.

Benzodiazepines are powerful drugs and can cause respiratory depression, you made a grave error in judgement.

This obviously isn't true, folks.

I really hope it isn't because if there really is an idiotic mum out there, who allows 15 year olds to drink to the point of vomiting, to pass out due to prescription drug use, in her house, and does nothing but mop up the sick and check the unconscious child is breathing, then it's extremely concerning.

Call 999 in a medical emergency. This is when someone is seriously ill or injured and their life is at risk.
Medical emergencies can include:
loss of consciousness

From the NHS website.
You should always call an ambulance in that kind of situation. Recovery position and call 999.

One child unconscious from unknown drug.
One child vomiting uncontrollably.
And you ignoring that drugs have been involved, in your house with underage children.
Ffs.

What the fuck.

You know that if you buy drugs, it's not necessarily what you think it is. Also you can't necessarily trust what druggies day - it could have been anything. There's so many synthetic drugs that the law hasn't even caught up on making them illegal.

As for another kid puking everywhere. What are the kids doing under your roof?

@BeRightOnMum - as other posters have said, you DID condone the behaviour, because you did nothing about it. You also condoned your son and his friends refusing to tell you who this girl was - that is borderline negligent, in my book.

Yes, you kept an eye on her, but you had NO way of being sure she actually had taken Xanax - I doubt she obtained it legally, and illegal drugs could be anything - there is no quality control. If the drugs she had taken had had other substances in them, she could have slipped into a coma and died. In your house. And then the police would have had some very serious questions for you.

And I am aghast that you let your son and his friends get away with refusing to give you her details - be the bloody parent! You need to insist on those details now, and inform her parents. Don’t take no for an answer.

If you don’t - and she ODs on drugs again, with more serious (maybe even fatal) consequences, how will you explain your failure to inform her parents that she was abusing drugs? How will you live with yourself, knowing that you could have done more?

I hope this is not true because if it is real, it is a damming indictment of an adult’s parenting.

I think ops name might be a wee hint here

I'm now wondering if this a one of those 'wind 'em up and watch 'em go' threads, designed to provoke outrage and disbelief at the callous disregard the OP has for the various activities supposedly going on under her watchful eye. It's probably lifted from Take a Break.

Ambulance. Not just bc it's the right thing to do but bc it removes the problem from your 'jurisdiction'. If she's only 15 then the hospital would have to try to inform parents and if not, social services. Also, a trip to hospital and all that entails shows her how serious the incident was

Not sure if it's even worth posting - but of course you should have called a bloody ambulance. I so hope that you are not the mother of one of DS's friends because if my son was ever in such a state I would expect emergency services to be called and me to be informed. Any parent would. 15 year olds do not have the maturity to make such a decision- that's why it's normal to want an adult present when teenagers get together. And to expect the adult to act like one.

This cannot possibly be true. What person in their right mind would keep minors in their house in an intoxixated/unconscious state for hours, monitoring them and not informing the parents or seeking medical input. Wow just wow. You deserve to be reported OP to social services for your own actions (or lack of) if the other parents find out which I'm sure they eventually will - no thanks to you though.

Oh FFS do me a favour and next time a minor is unconscious in your house let her parents know and get her an ambulance

Your actions are ridiculous a girl unconscious and you didn't think to call an ambulance and end the party? Really really irresponsible id be fuming if I were this girls mum and found out you did nothing.

Not to mention you could actually get in trouble for this yourself as the responsible adult.