DD is 13. For the past 2 years her obsession with boys has spiralled out of control.
She has never found it easy to make friends, but over the past couple of years has had say 1 or 2 close friends at a time.
And for weeks it goes great. Until a boy comes along.
She will dump her friends for this boy, then when that goes sour she has to start over with trying to find new friends.
We have banned boys completely.
So we go into this thing where she can't go out for weeks, she cries, apologises and weeks pass with no issue.
Then she will do something. Get caught in a boys bedroom, in his bed.
Kissing another boy and getting a bit fruity.
Stalking another boy. Following him to lessons, waiting for him to finish after school activities.
She's even gone as far as to get her friends to message them and MESSAGE THEIR MUMS!
Trying to get on her new BF's brother (17) - This happened this morning.
With regards to the boy and his bed, the police were called just as a precaution warning to her (and him) as she was only 12 and he was 14.
We have had her in counselling the past 8 weeks which ended on Thursday. She was so loving and so different (to our face) but it's clear boys are her major priority.
Can anyone shed light on what to do? Or been in this position before?
She doesn't have a phone but has access to a tablet. She isn't on Facebook but is allowed Instagram.
She isn't allowed a phone because when she did, every day was something (and no I'm not exaggerating)
Her older sister walks to and from school with her (she's a year older) so she can't run off and meet these boys.
People told me when she was 11 that it was a phase.
People told me at 12 she would calm it down.
Now she's 13 and getting a right name for herself.
I've sat with her so often and told her she doesn't need boys. That she should concentrate on her studies/herself. She deserves to wait and have her pick of lovely boys when she's older.
It doesn't make a difference. At the time she nods and agrees and smiles. And for weeks she's like my old girly. Then, it's like having a bitch on heat! Any boy, every boy. An age, any looks. It doesn't matter. Even if they are taken!
It gives me bad anxiety every day. I hate it. I hate knowing now that she's lost another friend (who will no doubt tell everyone why they have fallen out) because of a boy. I don't care if she cries/kicks of because she can't get to them. But I worry the lengths she will go to.