Walked in ds1s room to investigate the noise upstairs after he'd gone to bed and I do wish I hadn't

[weebleswobble]

From now on I knock. I have learned my lesson. Boys need privacy even if you think they're asleep. I will never enter his room again without knocking. Never, ever again.

He apologised, I made out I hadn't seen anything and beat a hasty retreat.

Tomorrow do I make out like I never walked in the room or do I tell him it's perfectly natural and everyone does it?

I see your point Ranting. Right, so now I say nothing, ex say's nothing and I always knock before entering his room

That's the spirit.
Boys eh, so much harder to deal with than girls because we've never been there. Bless 'em.

I'd write him a short note!

Dear X

I am so sorry that I entered your bedroom without knocking, it was an invasion of your private space and it was wrong to do so.

I am not going to insult your intelligence or undermine the good and open relationship that we have, by pretending not to have seen what I inadvertantly interupted. As a parent it is hard sometimes to grasp just how quickly our children are growing up and this was a fairly sharp wake up call for me.

I want you to know though, that you have no need to feel embarrassed - exploring your own body is entirely natural and most teenage boys seem to enjoy being more natural than most

Whist I have always been incredibly proud of how good our relationship is, I can understand that there are certain aspects of your life that you will want to keep private as you get older. That too is natural. However, if you need to talk to me or your Dad about anything, no matter how difficult it might be, we will always be willing to do so. Believe me, nothing much would phase us!

In the meantime, let's all get on with the business of being a great family - one which has brought me great happiness - long may that continue!

Love Mum xx

Or words to that effect!

That's a short note, Soapbox?

Surely a short one would be,

'Saw you w*nking. No worries. Love, Mum.'

Personally I would just leave it.

Soapbox - noooo!!!!!

Oh the poor lad - he'll be more mortified than you are weeble I'll bet.

I would just apologise for walking in without knocking then let his dad do the rest.

And I agree with hat about stripping their own beds......

flmao Kathy

Yes - given the choice I'd go with Kathy's note. lol!

Don't mention it!! He won't want you to mention it - you don't want to mention it!! My DH just told me to tell you this. I think it's wise to stamp heavily up the stairs and knock very hard in future. But I am PMSL - this is what I have to look forward to. My DS is 11, but tall and getting bigger!

Kathy

I think writing in difficult circumstances is an undertated parenting tool!

Rofl at Kathyis!!

If you ignore it he will be so relieved and think you didn't notice.

I'm saying nothing. I have been convinced to say nothing. I like nothing. Nothing is easy. I like easy in this situation

I CAN'T hear you!

The thought of my baby being teenager is horrifying ...

LOL at thread, esp. soapy's letter and kathy's alternative

4-5 years Ghosty and excuse the pun, it's coming, whether you stick your fingers in your ears or cover your eyes with your hands

You probably don't want to know this, but one night in the pub my old flatmate & his pals regaled me with stories of the joy of being a teenage boy.

A favourite was the "risky wank" - ie doing it when there was a chance of you being caught. Has a certain frisson apparently. As does doing it at the back of a rickety bus. And the back of the class. And pretty much anywhere. All the time. I came away with the conclusion that you are never more than 20 feet away from a masturbating teenager...

I have 2 dses

Bookthief - school report is due soon. I do hope 'back of the class' doesn't feature!

They are truly a different species - another good reason not to use public transport

bookthief - sounds very like my conversation. at school and everything. constantly working out when they can do it next.

I'd not even mention it. Pretend it never happened. You both know it did, so there's no need to bring it up again.

It is normal, he knows that, you know that, don't mention it, knock next time

Your little baby all grown up. And having a tug

soapbox, are you being facetious?

weeble, I would just LEAVE IT

dont worry lyrabel- I have 3!!

Dh already claims that he has a sign (he does electronic disco flashy stuff) in his workshop all ready to install that flashes 'Stop wanking' in bright red and blue in response to a flick from a switch downstairs

I think after the age of about 10 the tonly time i'd go in their room without knocking LOUDLY was if they were at school, frankly. DH wellr emembers the time his dad walked in on BIL and his then GF enjoying an ermn, less usual position, and enjoying it with noisy abandon! Apaprently FIL still walked in, put their cups of tea on the side and said 'i couldnt remember if you have sugar love'

weebleswobble, I love your message "I'm saying nothing. I have been convinced to say nothing. I like nothing. Nothing is easy. I like easy in this situation"

yes, yes, yes