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AIBU to think where I have I gone wrong my two lovely children have turned into horrible, selfish teenage brats

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Waltzingmatilda65 · 27/08/2018 14:06

Just that really. I am on holiday now with DH and our two early teenager children. They have largely got on with each other better than they do at home most of the time and have joined in with water games/activities organised by the animation team etc.
But nearly every word that comes out of DD 13’s mouth is to poke fun at me she is surly, rude and disrespectful. When out for a meal she has little to say. We don’t let them take phones or iPads out (and never have had them at the table at home). She has no conversation if I look in her direction, pay her a compliment or ask her a question she either sticks her tongue out, pulls a face, snaps at me or mimics me. I am fed up with it. She is young for age and has no friends outside of school. I have tried to help with and I have taken time off work and done things with her.
DS 14 can hold a conversation but he can also be quite aggressive and rude in his tone. On holiday DH was speaking to me and we were having a discussion about which restaurant to go to and DS sticks his two penny’s in and starts getting really arsey etc. DH has told them both off several times. I am fed up with the pair of them last night I was awake thinking of ways I could get them to respect me and also punish them as they both do nothing at home. Neither make their beds, pick their dirty clothes up and take them to the wash, put cereal away, milk back in the fridge, clean up after making a snack etc etc without a carry on/argument/unless I hide their phones or knock the WiFi off.
I am fed up with them. They also bicker DD winds her brother up then he reacts over the top often hurting her or damaging something. They both used to be so lovely. But I now feel like a could really run away.

OP posts:
aayakg · 02/09/2018 00:44

Its a phase. My DD was like this until she was about 18, and then she started really appreciating me and DH and enjoying spending time with us and chatting to us again. She's now at uni and gets really excited to come home in the holidays and spend time with the family. As for the conversation at dinner, find what they're really interested in and bring that up, even if its not your thing. DD wasn't much of a talker at that age unless we brought up her passions like space and the universe or Harry Potter (her favourite book series), then we couldn't get her to stop talking!

Wonderwine · 02/09/2018 10:49

We are living in teenage hell at the moment. Apparently DH & I are 'weird' because we tend to say hello to people when they are in our house and we dare to come into our own kitchen when DS has friends around.
DS has dyslexia and processing issues and has always needed help with his organisation etc, but apparently we are controlling and suffocating and he no longer needs our help. I have told DH that I have had enough and that I am going 'cold turkey' and will no longer be helping/reminding DS about anything.

Theimpossiblegirl · 02/09/2018 12:00

I watched Love Island this year. Not my cup of tea but it did give us something to talk about.
:)

bringbacksideburns · 02/09/2018 12:06

All perfectly normal OP.

At times they can show glimpses of the wonderful people I'm sure they can be!

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