teenage girls and the internet is this normal???

[elesbells]

hi, my dd2 who has just turned 16 is generally a good girl (a few tantrums, backchat ect but nothing abnormal!) however whilst looking through my pc a couple of months ago i came across a website for teenagers and there she was with a pic of herself in a low cut top, boobs on show and finger in her mouth. (a really provocative pose!)there was a full profile of herself (area she lived, name of school ect) she was only 15 then and i made her remove it, didnt make a huge issue of it (although i wanted to) i kept calm and explained the dangers ect. she was then barred from using the p.c. However for her 16th birthday darling ex hubby bought her a laptop!! against my advice i might add! so the deal was she could go on it but no passwords and no site's like the one the pic was on! anyway last night i took her washing up to her room and as i walked in she quickly clicked the screen off. i asked her to show me and she did. it was a chatroom again this time she was talking to a boy who says he is 18 and the content was heavly sexual. all about what they were going to do when they meet up ect!! any advice on what to do now would be greatly received. i want her to have her privacy but i dont want her to put herself in danger!

I think no passwords is totally reasonable.

I use the same computer as my dd15 and we now have a rule of no passwords. That means I can't either. It also means I won't look at her user account and I don't expect her to look at mine.

But, I think it gives her boundaries that she can impose on herself... not sure if that makes sense...i.e if she's going to do something online that needs to be hidden then she probably shouldn't be doing it...OK she can still do it, and try to hide it or hope I won't nose about or delete her history or whatever but at least she is concious of what she is doing. And might start to evaluate what she is doing.

It's easy for teenagers to get lost in that non-real world of internet, but I reckon that "no password" gives a strong reminder of the existence of the REAL world.

God knows if I'm right here - this is my first teenager, I'll probably have ALL the answers by the time DC3 is this age!

elesbells my dd (1yo) is named Elsie an from a couple of days old weve called her elsbells!!!! lol, think the situation with your dd is tough one definatly have her in same room i suggest you tell her you shall be checking what sites shes been on till she is more responsible

elsieanjoanne, its the nickname for my 14m dd3 too!! but it wasnt meant in the sweet form....it came from hellsbells!!! (she did drive us mad in the early days!!)

thats why my dd gets called it i started calling it her whe she got colic!!!! lol an it was picked up by everyone especially being named elsie so elsbells rolls off tongue!