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Poor dss(18) his first ever gf went out last night and shagged someone else[shock] SLAAAAAAG!!

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Carmenere · 02/06/2007 10:29

Poor fella Tbh I don't think he was in love with her adn told him that yesterday but he had only been with her for 6 weeks and he is now heartbroken and humiliated.
He nearly gave up the opportunity to go and work in the Channel Islands for the summer because he wanted to be with her. This was why I told him that he wasn't in love yesterday. Luckily he diddn't ditch the job. Poor fellow but lucky escape I suppose.

She did have peircings in her lips and a VERY irritating accent so I won't be missing her too much

And I WON'T be welcoming her back her if he is stupid enough to see her again.

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JetPeanut · 02/06/2007 10:35

Poor DS. I suppose we all have to go through this sort of crap at some point. I am not looking forward to my DS ever getting a BF. Mind you, she's only 16 months, so this won't be for at least another, ooh, 22 years or so...

JetPeanut · 02/06/2007 10:35

My DD even!

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Carmenere · 02/06/2007 10:37

I know but do you remember how absolutely hideously painful it is. He is hiding in his bedroom and I'm not sure if I should say anything to him. 'Don't mind her, she is just a slag' ect comes to mind but I don't think that would be helpful.
I might try the 'she is obviously not mature enough to have a relationship with someone who has commitments' (his A levels) line. What do you think?

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Megglevache · 02/06/2007 10:38

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NutterlyUts · 02/06/2007 10:41

Slightly off topic, but where in the Channel Islands? I'm in Jersey

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Carmenere · 02/06/2007 10:42

Alderney Nutterly, do you spend any time there?

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NutterlyUts · 02/06/2007 10:43

Nope. I've been there a few times though. Its a nice place, v small and not much night life though!

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Carmenere · 02/06/2007 10:45

Well he will be working in a restaurant with plenty of pretty waitresses so I'm sure he will find some distractions

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JetPeanut · 02/06/2007 10:45

I do remember the pain. Awful. Don't know what to say about advice. I don't think I would have wanted my parents giving me their two pennysworth IYKWIM. I used to feel quite protective of my privacy and didn't want them knowing all the gory details. We're all different though.

NutterlyUts · 02/06/2007 10:45

Don't doubt that!

NutterlyUts · 02/06/2007 10:45

Good luck to him

JackieNo · 02/06/2007 10:47

Maybe just a bit of extra fuss (bringing cups of coffee/tea/other drinks snacks etc) without actually saying anything about why he's down atm. Save talking about it for when he's got over it a bit.

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Carmenere · 02/06/2007 10:49

Well he did tell me himself so I supposed he wanted me to know. Now he is a bit of a drama king so I suspect this will be the worst thing that has ever happened to him but I'd imagine that it is his pride that is hurt more than anything else.
I will leave it for a while before saying anything to him.

On a positive note, at least we will get the use of our phone back.

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TigerFeetFormerlyCheesyFeet · 02/06/2007 10:51

Poor him, I remember it all only too well, it felt like the world was ending .

Agree with the ever sensible JackieNo, just make extra fuss of him without talking for just now.

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Carmenere · 02/06/2007 11:03

Yes I will go and bring him some Jasmine tea and a chocolate croissant. Much prefer Tigerfeet as a name btw

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TigerFeetFormerlyCheesyFeet · 02/06/2007 11:05

Its what I wanted all along - won it at the name auction

Chocolate croissants are just the thing for wounded pride imho

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Carmenere · 02/06/2007 12:17

Oh God, I just spoke to him(brought him up the tea and croissant). She left their local pub with another bloke last night holding hands, dss mate followed them out and they ran away. Dss's mate rang dss and told him. Now dss is holding out hope that his friend was messing (he wasn't imo as he would have told dss so at the 3rd call and he is generally a nice fellow).

But the absolutely worst thing is that he now tells me that he wasn't using bloody condoms. She was on the pill apparently WTF!!! I am very pissed off with him, he knows better than this, we have talked about it No wonder the rates of std's are racing up!

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bananabump · 02/06/2007 12:31

Hopefully he'll have learned his lesson about using protection then, but if you're worried perhaps he could go and get checked out? Do you know if she was his first?

Poor sod, the first breakup is so painful. I wouldn't try any advice, just give me more fuss as everyone has said.

bananabump · 02/06/2007 12:32

Give HIM more fuss!!

haha, freudian slip anyone? Apparently I want some fuss! or maybe just a chocolate croissant...

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Carmenere · 02/06/2007 12:58

She was his first which is why I reckon he was in 'thrall' rather than love.

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Carmenere · 02/06/2007 19:50

Ok soooo. He went to have it out with her this afternoon and it seems that she has been sleeping with another bloke the whole time they were together[sad He is devastated.
He collapsed into his dads arms and sobbed like a baby Poor bastard.
And the absolutely worst thing is that he has his exams on Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday and they will decide if he gets to stay in school. He is consumed by grief and is not/can not study. He has lost all sense of perspective and he is quite likely to fuck up totally. If I could get the little slag alone I wold give her a piece of my mind. I will be fuming if he fails because of this.

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ChipButty · 02/06/2007 19:54

What a selfish bitch. Hope she's proud of herself.

Kewcumber · 02/06/2007 19:58

First broken heart is so painful. Bless. Hope he can block it out and do the best with his exams.

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Carmenere · 02/06/2007 20:16

His dad has brought him to the pub, I hope he will be able to talk sense into him........

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HonoriaGlossop · 02/06/2007 20:37

carmen, that's unbearable thinking of him sobbing on his dad

It just goes to show that A levels etc come at the wrong time....hormones and generally developing and growing mean that this relationship stuff HAS to come at this point....such a shame that exams do too.

I would say that the exams might actually prove a focus for him - possibly.

If he does muck up, so what, he can take them again.

i don't mean to sound overly glib as I know family circs don't always mean that this is easy; but there is usually a way of re-taking or doing them again. It's not the be-all and end-all of life. I did my A levels a year late, while working part time, and it was a lovely time for me.

Poor boy, I really, really feel for him. Hope he finds a more sincere person next time he chooses a girl. What a classy number she sounds, not.