Oh - where to start. My 14 year old son has caused so many problems over the last few months. I am aware he is using cannabis but its difficult to catch that (and is always denied). He has serious anger issues. He has smashed things up in house (holes in walls, kicking and damaging doors and bedroom furniture). He is always angry, really angry. When he gets angry, he screams at me and oftens lashes out at walls, doors etc (never me). He has been excluded from school 4 times since January. School are keeping him in isolation on a reduced timetable. He has tried counselling (one session and they said he wouldn't engage so pointless), Early Help (voluntary social services), complete waste of time - literally monthly meetings over 6 months and nothing achieved. Even had him at doctors last week and they suggested - Early Help - joke !! Though I have made another appointment for next week. He is now dictating whether he goes to school. Twice this week he has screamed and shouted at me and got changed and left the house and just not gone to school. Nothing gets through to him. This week I made him angry by hanging up the phone on him, he called me back and threatened to smash car and windows. He came back to house and there was an argument. I warned him if he did any damage to the house I would call police (I have made this threat before and not carried it out). He kicked a wall and really damaged it, then left, so I rang police. He was arrested. Initially he was shocked and upset but then after a while the attitude set back in. Later that night he came back to the house while I was talking to police. He was angry but mainly attitude and a lot of muttering under his breath. The policeman shouted at him, threatened him with care for the night and he calmed down. I have a couple of days to think about it but do I make a statement and he goes down Youth Offenders route (he has had no previous criminal involvement with the police so first offence). I have tried to talk to him about what happened and he shows no remorse. He has said 'Sorry' for the wall but not shown any reason to make me believe that he is sorry, but even blamed me for not listening and hanging up the phone. I think in my heart I know he is out of control. I tell him he is grounded etc and he threatens to smash house up if he doesn't go out (also I am usually at work). He is not a nice human being right now. Nothing seems to register and he can't seem to acknowledge/understand that all of his problems, school, friends, home are actually due to his behaviour. Whilst he admits he can behave badly occasionally, he doesn't seem to stop or want to stop. I can't lock him in his room until this subsides so this has to be dealt with somehow. This morning he even told me that he would be better off in Care as he had asked his friends about it and you get a fiver a day and all of your meals (FFS). He complains that I don't listen, but then doesn't actually say anything when I do? Whatever I do he twists it to suit his needs and manipulates to get his own way !! I am completely broken xx