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Teenagers money

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Maths9 · 15/06/2018 17:16

Ds13 has just been paid 10000 pounds for a commercial and he wants to put it towards his uni fund. However as we were talking about expenses he suggested we could have a grand for expenses. I was a bit offended as technically the money is ours and although we would put it towards his uni fund, we would like a bit for ourselves. He also does not want to share it with his sister, which we thought we could do. Any suggestions

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BackforGood · 15/06/2018 18:43

Oh, well that's fine then. "Only" £5000 per day.
All makes sense now.

^ Tell that to the paramedic, nurses, police, firefighters, armed forces, etc.

Sorry Maths I realise not your making, and you are just taking advantage of a system in place, but it makes my blood boil the way money is distributed so unfairly in life.

Vitalogy · 15/06/2018 18:45

He needs his own bank account.

My son is a baby model and all his fees get paid into a named savings account that he will have access to aged 18 and our expenses have always been paid by the company he's working with Just out of interest. Do the agencies ask specifically for the child's bank account details from the off?

expatinscotland · 15/06/2018 18:45

'we will be giving our child the money for his uni funds. '

It's his money. I hope he refuses to do any more pimp work for you all.

Gobbolinothewitchscat · 15/06/2018 18:50

What agent takes 100%?!

That is appalling and, if you have taken other money in the past, I suggest you reimburse him and also ensure that tax has been properly paid

HarshingMyMellow · 15/06/2018 18:51

God, that is vile.

He's giving you the money that you spent on the expenses (given that he's been paid so much wouldn't you be reimbursed for those anyway?) and you're entitled to nothing else. Neither is his sister.

He made the money, his choice what to do with it and where it goes.
Or do you all sit down when your wages come in and decide who gets what?

On the path to resentment there op.

teddybaare · 15/06/2018 18:53

@vitalogy yep it was a requirement that he had a bank account in his name so a bit baffled at this thread unless all agencies don't work the same

Vitalogy · 15/06/2018 18:58

teddybaare Thanks for answering. I'm sure there are some dodgy agents.

teddybaare · 15/06/2018 19:00

@vitalogy Definitely. We only got DS into modelling so as he could have some saving in the future that we wouldn't otherwise be able to provide. Disgusts me that some parents can be so selfish!

Tambien · 15/06/2018 19:01

It’s not because the money went to your account that it’s not his though. Maybe look at the contract. I am sure it will say it’s your ds not you who is been paid for the work!!!

hamandpease · 15/06/2018 19:05

So you're child doesn't have an agent? Is that what you're saying?

Because for a 10k that's v unlikely

lostfrequencies · 15/06/2018 19:09

This is disgraceful! Your poor son.

LawDegreeBarbie · 15/06/2018 19:19

I am actually appalled that you and your DH feel this way.

Absolutely not to sharing this with his sister. It's his money. He should 100% be involved in conversations regarding his money.

If you two can't be trusted with it, all earnings should go into a trust with two trustees that aren't you or your DH for DH when he's 18.

If DH is his agent, take his agreed cut of 10% and cover modest expenses with the agreement of your son but keep your hands off his money.

HarshingMyMellow · 15/06/2018 19:22

@hamandpease I'm thinking that they've told whatever production company they worked with that OPs DH was the boys agent.

Seems likely seeing as they seem to think that him sending a few emails on behalf of son = £££.

HollowTalk · 15/06/2018 19:45

They can't just say they're agents, though. The production companies would know the agencies.

I'm calling bullshit, tbh. He wouldn't be getting that sort of money without an agent.

Reaa · 15/06/2018 19:51

Don't you get a chaperone allowance anyway on top of what the child gets paid?

teddybaare · 15/06/2018 19:53

@reaa most of the time, yes, especially with high paid jobs like this but doubt the OP will be back to explain Confused I don't think the op is 100% true

nottinghillgrey · 15/06/2018 19:58

My husband thinks that because he has effectively been an agent- emailing back and forth- and our belief that all money earns is money for all of us, we are not sure what to do.

Divorce your husband. He sounds like a right greedy bastard.

StillNoClue · 15/06/2018 20:03

Despite what the op says, I'm getting the feeling that she will still plan to keep part of the money.

He's a 13yr old. Let him keep the money. I'd understand if he plans to spend it on Gaming points on an online game, but he wants to save for his future. The way student loans are going, he will need all the additional cash he can get.

If you had said, look we need to pay this bill, can we borrow X amount and we will pay it back into your account, that's acceptable. But moaning he won't give his sister any money is unfair.

You husband sent some emails and now thinks he's earned the right to his sons money? Your husband sounds like an arse

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Maths9 · 15/06/2018 20:05

To clarify, it is possible. To get 10k due to the nature of the work and the company commissioning it. The reason we have no agent is due to the fact that we can pick and choose more easily what commercials he wants to do due to school etc.

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hamandpease · 15/06/2018 20:07

@HarshingMyMellow the thinking is the kid has a real agent to get a 10k fee as it's a much bigger job than a few emails

Bizarre parenting!

hamandpease · 15/06/2018 20:08

Cross post 🤦‍♀️

HarshingMyMellow · 15/06/2018 20:09

I'm lost.

hamandpease · 15/06/2018 20:31

@HarshingMyMellow yeah ignore me that was an utterly garbled message and I cross posted with the answer anyway Smile

SouthWestmom · 15/06/2018 20:31

I've never been paid to be a chaperone for my dc. They always have professionals - maybe because there are several under 18s at times.

As for payment I don't think there is a specific law: each LA issues a licence and some might stipulate that accounts have to be in the childs name.

FWIW im horrified at anyone helping themselves to their dc earnings. Fair enough if you are skint to take petrol money off maybe.

BeyondThePage · 15/06/2018 20:38

When I started earning at 14 I paid half my wages to my mother for my keep.

We were poor though, does that make a difference?

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