Do your teens sometimes make you cry?

[pasanda]

Feeling really pre-menstual and knackered so don't normally do this but.....fuck me, teenagers can make you feel shit sometimes can't they!

Xmas tree shopping/ decorating has always been a fun tradition in this house. A BIG thing to whoever puts the star on the top. Yesterday dd (13, nearly 14) put one fecking bauble on the tree then fucked off back to her room with a face like a wet weekend having ruined the atmosphere.

Mealtimes, they can't wait to fuck off back to their rooms/PS4, no conversation at all, just a miserable face.

DS (16) is a bloody saint according to his gf's parents

I KNOW it's all normal blah blah blah. But I just always envisage other teens being well, just nicer in day to day life.

Making the most of 9 year old dt 's before they 'turn' into miserable fuckers too!

(Ps, they're not always like this, it's just tonight I'm feeling it! Anyone else sympathise with me?

[MoKnickers]

Yep. I’m a bitch according to my DS so I’ve been sitting in the car crying for the last hour.

[Kareninfrance]

Sounds like we have exactly the same situation. Coukd I pm you?

[Iluvthe80s]

We've had a terrible 18 months with our nearly 16 year old son. struggling at school, fell in with wrong crowd-taking drugs, drinking, flouted our requests for him to be in on time. Was aggressive then violent towards us, hit husband and I and threatened to kill us. We called the police twice and had him arrested. he is in trouble with the police. Our 11 years old daughter is traumatised by what she witnessed (we kept her physically safe) and is having counselling.

Our complication is he has ADHD and is on pathway to ASD diagnosis. I say a complication as these two things do influence his behavior and I sometimes feel conflicted about his behaviour......ie how much can he control?. We have tried new strategies at home which have reduced his violent outbursts and more times than not, he is in on time now and when he is late, he usually calls. He refuses to give up smoking weed.

Like Wozzle and I have had to harden myself to him, otherwise I could see my having a total breakdown and my DH and I separating. He is now being tutored at home as he cannot cope in mainstream and he works hard with his tutor-so we hope he will get English and Maths. I NEVER thought his life and ours would take this direction and sometimes I despair of him. I love him, but alot of the time I do not recognise him as the boy we loved and nurtured.

[Iluvthe80s]

Kareninfrance have things improved for you at all? Hope so x

[drinkswineoutofamug]

Mine gave me a nervous breakdown.

[Linnie444]

Honey..... maybe revise your parenting strategies? Have you tried reverse psychology it works a treat It’s the ship that made the Kessel run in less than twelve parsecs. I’ve outrun Imperial starships. Not the local bulk cruisers, mind you. I’m talking about the big Corellian ships, now. She’s fast enough for you, old man.

[Labracadabra]

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[Kareninfrance]

Hi - no - shit hit the fan this morning again - so sick of living like this.

[Itcanonlygetbetter72]

Linnie444 - not sure who you are directing your message to but we have tried forward, back and to the side nothing works for our situation.
You think you get two steps forward and then you go in a huge reverse. I think my Son has mental health issues constantly lying, aggressive outburst, addictive personality, he has split from GF as he has hit her, apparently he has been smoking weed, possibly cocaine, he has dropped out of college this week. came home last night (after not hearing from him since Saturday morning) collected a few things and said he does not want to live here anymore and is not going back to college, I opened the front door and said no problem your choices, good luck and shut the door behind him. I have cried a thousand tears since last night asking myself where the hell did it all go wrong, we are a normal (if that is the right word) family, no history of this either side and up to 14 he was a loving care and kind young man but he has gone and I have accepted that we have lost him. The last thing I said to our Son was you need to seek medical help as I think there are underlying issues you can imagine the response I got so I have resided to the fact I have one Son who has so far kept on the right path. It almost feels like watching someone dying in front of you and you are powerless to stop it. My Son will go one of two ways now, a few rough years then wake up look around him when he has no one left and say to himself what have I got into and ended up like or stay on this path of destruction earning a low wage with enough for maybe rent for a room and beer money, but I am past the battling stage. I totally feel for anyone going through this, before this happened to our family I used to think how did that happen with other families it won't happen to me but rest assured it can happen to any of us, ours was overnight and I could spend the rest of my days torturing myself and asking where did I go wrong but I won't life is too short and too precious.

[Iluvthe80s]

Kareninfrance-sorry to read that! I really hoped things might have improved for you

Itcanonlygetbetter72 you are not alone in all of this. We are hoping CAMHs are going to help our son with his anxiety-which leads to anger and violence. Most of the time I no longer recognise him. All he wants to do is smoke weed and hang out with his mates and "chill". I told him that we don;'t work hard all day for him to piss away our money on drugs. I will be amazed if he is not in prison/dead in a years time. I don't want that, but I am having to mentally prepare myself that this is where he is heading

[LinoleumBlownapart]

Thankfully not often as he's got a lot nicer lately but it has happened.

This teenage manequin helps me dry my tears