Teens financial expectations...what are 'everyone else's parents' actually giving their teenagers??

[Maisie36]

My son gets £35 per month pocket money, plus his phone. He has a bus pass for school, and during term I give him £20 per week for lunch. However when it comes to weekends and holidays apparently all his friends parents dish out £10 a day for food! This seems unlikely to me, it adds up to a rediculous amount but im told I am I just being tight! What are 'everyone's else's parents' actually doing??

Dd (15) gets £30 a month pocket money, mobile phone paid for (£11 a month), riding lessons and drama lessons paid for along with school uniform, basic clothes and toiletries. She earns £200 a month from working at the stables so pays for stuff she wants but doesn’t need, socialising, makeup, birthday presents for friends and any extra riding lessons. She offered to forego her pocket money when she started earning but I didn’t think she should be penalised for being hard-working as her older brothers ha pocket money at the same age and didn’t earn a penny

DD15 gets £25 per month from us topped up with £25 per month from working for an hour each week with more in school holidays. I also pay £10 for Spotify, £17 for her iPhone. We buy most of her decent clothes & shoes (coats, sports kit, trainers, anything from Superdry) and she buys cheap & cheerful stuff herself. We buy an endless supply of books & bus fares & she buys make up. We pay for rugby, tennis club & teach cycling, she pays as she goes for the gym. She will cost us a lot more next year when she goes to college.

£40 a month per teen

To my mind eating out is a treat and in all fairness to your son a sociable thing. What does he spend the £35 on you do give him. If his priority is eating out with his friends, then £35 would cover say bus fare into town here and then the food you mentioned once a week. I suppose it depends on how good friends are, but if my DD was short of money she would take a piece of fruit and bottle of water with her and buy a cake or croissant, her friends seemed happy to do this.

mine get £50 a month in the bank, I pay their phone contract but any overspend comes out of the £50 - ditto Spotify etc

I pay £15 as week each into their school dinners

They can earn more if they babysit their younger sister, mow the lawn etc

they are 13 and 15

Mine are 18 and 16. Both have been working weekends/evenings since 15.

I pay for their food - eaten at home. I pay their mb phone contracts. I buy their basic clothes and school uniform (for 16 year old. 18 year old no longer wears uniform. He is at college). I pay any fees that school or college need for trips, material etc.

Any overpriced clothing they desperately have to have they pay for themselves. If they refuse to eat at home they pay for their own meals out.

DS bought his own car. I pay half his insurance costs. He has a student bus pass for college so needs petrol for leisure. He buys his own petrol.