DD missed the bus...again - did I do the right thing?

[JufusMum]

Ok, so DD15 is not a morning person, pretty bad at getting up. I do her lunch, her breakfast etc. She is responsible for getting up, dressing, packing her school bag and getting to the bus.

She has missed the school bus a number of times and I have always driven her to school (2.5 miles, rural). Today I decided that no, I would not make myself late for work again and she could stew in her own juice.

I went off to work just as the public bus (which would get her to school, albeit 15 mins late) pulled into our village. I called her to tell her to get on it but I got a mouthful of abuse, and she told me that I don't care and she was walking to school across the fields where "I will probably get attacked" and then she hung up on me.

This was at 8.45am and school rang em at 10.35am to say she had just arrived.

Of course, I now feel like the worst parent on earth - did I do the wrong thing?

It doesn't sound like the girl is likely to refuse school just faffs about making her mum take her teenagers need to know they can't hold parents to emotional ransom because they can't be arsed to get up in the morning the world even though they can think it does not revolve around them.

Of course you did the right thing. When she has a job the repercussions of being late will be much worse (i.e gets fired) so best teach her a lesson now

Absolutely the right thing to do! I hope the bus fare came out of her own pocket too!

I made a stand with getting DS17 up in the mornings last year. I was sick of arguing with him about getting up for the bus so I got fed up and left him to it. He now sets his alarm and gets up at a reasonable time, and is out the house under his own steam. I probably left it a bit late though.

Why do you feel bad? You didn't make her late.

It's about an hrs walk, isn't it?

Could she bike?

Tell her to do her lunch & bag the night before & make her take some responsibility.

6yr olds here walk to school for half an hour for an 8 o'clock start!