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Original poster

Aibu to let me child have a sleep over

56 replies

humblebeedle · 26/08/2017 14:29

My ds age 13 has been invited to have a sleep over with three of his close friends, all the same age, without any adult supervision. The family in question are away for the day and night. I've offered the boys to sleep at mine or I sleep over there but they don't want either. They are very good children and I trust them to be sensible. I'm also local so can get there very quickly if there was a problem. WWUD?

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StarlightExpress5 · 26/08/2017 14:30

No way would I leave a group of 13 year olds overnight Shock

Mrscropley · 26/08/2017 14:30

My ds is 13 and no way. . Just no. .

Teenageromance · 26/08/2017 15:55

No

MarmaladeIsMyJam · 26/08/2017 15:56

Not a chance. Who on earth leaves their 13yo alone overnight??

PotteringAlong · 26/08/2017 15:59

Noooooo. No.

DramaAlpaca · 26/08/2017 15:59

No way.

MarmaladeIsMyJam · 26/08/2017 16:00

It's an offence to leave a child under 16 home alone overnight if police think they may be at risk

Original poster
humblebeedle · 26/08/2017 16:01

My first reaction was the same but he is alone while I'm at work during the day and has shown how responsible he is.

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PigletWasPoohsFriend · 26/08/2017 16:01

^Looks at DSS

No.

MarmaladeIsMyJam · 26/08/2017 16:06

Once again, why is he being left alone overnight??

Ttbb · 26/08/2017 16:06

No, I definitely wouldn't let him go.

Original poster
humblebeedle · 26/08/2017 16:09

I think they are just asking as they are growing independent and wanting to feel more grown up.

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EllenJanethickerknickers · 26/08/2017 16:11

Not a chance.

HappyLollipop · 26/08/2017 16:17

No way! No matter how well behaved or good they are ordinarily, teenagers have an ability to cause mischief when left alone.

LovingLola · 26/08/2017 16:20

No.

Babyblues14 · 26/08/2017 16:20

Your not allowed to leave a minor alone overnight, daytime is fine as long as it's only for a few hours.

LovingLola · 26/08/2017 16:20

My first reaction was the same but he is alone while I'm at work during the day and has shown how responsible he is.

What does he do when he alone at home while you are working?

Original poster
humblebeedle · 26/08/2017 16:22

Just out of curiosity I've been googling what age you can babysit from and Maryland, North Carolina says from age eight!

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kittybiscuits · 26/08/2017 16:22

I would say 'don't be ridiculous' and if I hadn't heard it from a parent directly I would be asking them if it was a genuine request and if so, what on earth were they thinking.

Whosthemummynow · 26/08/2017 16:24

The fact that they don't want to sleep at yours or have your supervision tells you they are going to be doing things they don't want you to see/no about!

Babyblues14 · 26/08/2017 16:24

Check Google it is the law that they cannot be left overnight so if they were seen or caught you and the other parents would be prosecuted. Or just use common sense. I would be terrified of leaving my dss at night. I get worried when I go to visit my parents and he doesn't want to come. I constantly text him

Original poster
humblebeedle · 26/08/2017 16:25

I was called by the parent which is why I've been thinking about it!

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BackforGood · 26/08/2017 16:25

No. Like you I would offer to let them stay at mine, but wouldn't let him go to someone else's house overnight, with no adult.

Mossend · 26/08/2017 16:39

I wouldn't let my DS age 13 do this

Eragonsegg · 26/08/2017 16:42

My dd is 15. Still a no!

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