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13 year old daughter asking for wkd?

106 replies

jodie230104 · 15/02/2017 23:24

So today on friday my 13 year old daughter is having a sleepover with her best friend, and she asked me for some wkd blue for the sleepover. Shes pretty sensible but Im not sure what to say to her as I want her to feel mature and that im treating her like like shes mature but I dont want her to think its ok to just drink alcohol whenever if u know what i mean x

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RayofFuckingSunshine · 16/02/2017 12:25

Kel. What you choose to do with your own children is your business. However much I think it's disgusting. But the OPs daughter was having a friend over. If my child was at a sleepover and her friends mother gave my child alcohol all hell would break loose and my ire would be aimed firmly at said mother.

JustDanceAddict · 16/02/2017 14:22

No.

amytz165 · 16/02/2017 20:19

Im not being funny or anything but the other say I was checkigg my DD's snapchat and on one of her schoolmates story it showed them both with bottles of koppaberg and then a video of them drinking it, it really makes me wonder some parents these days these are 12/13 year olds drinking alcohol how can parents not care or notice. Some parents need to pay attention

Wishiwasmoiradingle2017 · 16/02/2017 20:20

I don't even let my ds 13 have coke at home!!

Mum2jenny · 16/02/2017 20:25

I'd get one small bottle and share it between the two 13 year old girls. It's enough for them to feel 'grown up' and not enough to cause ill effects.

lorelairoryemily · 16/02/2017 20:25

Op you are an idiot

cowgirlsareforever · 16/02/2017 20:27

I think it's a fantastic idea to give a 13 year old alcohol.

I'm lying.

Sittinginthesun · 16/02/2017 20:28

No, and I wouldn't be letting her go to the sleep over either.

If she wants to feel grown up, let her do the ironing, and put her pocket money towards the mortgage.

Slimmingsnake · 16/02/2017 20:30

My friend buys this for her daughter when they have a sleepover..apparently it knocks them out nicely,and everyone gets a good nights kip....she's 13 too...bizarre

Mum2jenny · 16/02/2017 21:12

If I remember correctly, a small bottle of WKD has 1.4 units of alcohol, split between two 13 year olds is 0.7 units. That is the best part of fuck all! I'd let them do this as it means lots to them and will not be an issue in the real world.

MrsDoylesTeabags · 16/02/2017 21:33

When it comes to teenagers everybody else's parent let the do all sorts of thing's you'd never let them do. I'll let you in on a secret...it's not true.
Still all teenagers have to try it on, it comes with the territory.
You set your boundaries and you stick to them, as she gets older you can negotiate, most teens will try alcohol before they turn 18 but IMO 13 is still a little bit too young

GeorgeTheHamster · 16/02/2017 21:35

No chance. Maybe at fifteen. Not now.

Mum2jenny · 16/02/2017 21:41

I'm probably a bad mum as I let my DC try alcohol at age 10 as the bar person did serve the child the alcohol.

TheOnlyLivingBoyInNewCross · 17/02/2017 07:58

If she wants to feel grown up, let her do the ironing, and put her pocket money towards the mortgage.

Best answer ever!

DS is 13 and having a sleepover for his birthday. I just asked him if he wanted me to get him some alcopops for it - he looked at me as if I was mad (he hates the little sips of wine/beer he has tried), then looked at the ipad and said "Okaaaaaaaay - have you been reading Mumsnet again?"

He likes me to tell him about the best bits of crazy I find on here and this has definitely made his top five Grin

ChasingMars · 17/02/2017 18:44

Just no. I can't believe it even needs thinking about at 13, I would've burst out laughing when she asked. Only recently have I started allowing my DD to take alcohol to parties - she's 16 and a half. My other DD is 13 and wouldn't dream of it!

NapQueen · 17/02/2017 18:48

I would be incandescent with rage if I found out some other kids parents had given my child alcohol at a sleepover at 13yo.

It doesnt matter to me what the % of alcohol it is or number of units. 13yos dont need to engage in any sort of casual drinking.

swingofthings · 18/02/2017 09:57

I'm not from the UK originally, but what really shocked me when I moved her is how people seem to rely on alcohol to have a good time. It's as if without it, the fun is ruined, and indeed, the concept of stopping after a few seems an issue.

It's not really an issue of age. I personally don't agree with drinking before Uni or there about because most of the fact that most kids really struggle with the notion of knowing when to stop before they get so drunk, they don't know what they are doing and put themselves at risk.

I am raising my kids to be confident and comfortable with who they are. We've had discussions about the notion of being able to have a good time without needing the affect of alcohol to chill out. Whether 13 or 31, you really shouldn't have to rely on it to feel relaxed and in a fun mood. Nothing wrong with enjoying a drink of it, the taste in enjoyable, and it is no different to enjoying an ice cold glass of Coke, but when you start to believe that a party is not worth having without drinks, then something is wrong, and very wrong if you that's how you feel at 13.

DD is 17, has been going to parties since she was about 14/15 and never had a sip of alcohol. As she says, she can have a great time without it whilst knowing she remains safe and with a refresh and clear head the next morning. If anything, she's been the good influence on her friends and more of them have gone on deciding not to drink.

Alcohol is a real issue in our society, be it for what it leads people to do, as well as to how it affects our health. Telling a 13 yo that it is ok to have drinks at parties, whether be at home or not, is really not a good example of parenting.

LoveBeingAMum555 · 19/02/2017 10:32

Exactly the same happened to me when DS was fifteen and a half. After a lot of discussion I reluctantly said yes and bought him a small amount of alcopops to take. At 13 it would have been a definite no. If you say yes you also need to think about what you will say to future requests.

specialsubject · 19/02/2017 12:54

swing There are a lot of saddos in the Uk who are too thick or boring to have fun without chemical help. Unfortunately it is the saddos who make the attitudes and the sheepy kids follow them.

Unless an adult explains how it is. Druggies and drunks are nasty skanks and not heroic examples.

Op - the answer is no. Kiddypops are marketed to the stupid. Your daughter needs to be better than that.

booellesmum · 19/02/2017 12:56

Definitely not.
My 15 year old has been having a small glass of wine with dinner a couple of nights a week for the last few years - but I'd still say no to alcohol at a party.

fwaddams · 25/07/2021 02:43

hi, a 13 yr old here i’ve always thought alcohol was disgusting and never in a million years would i ever have any (although my dad at party’s does let me have a sip of his but i just want to taste it, half the time a pull a face because it tastes horrible lol) but i went to my friends house for her birthday sleepover and she said ‘oh yes for later we’ve got champagne, wkd, cocktails and malibu’ and i just stared at her blankly like what, and she said oh come onnn you’ve got to have a little drink ( in the end i just had a sip of each of there’s because i wanted to taste the flavour (they each had 4-5 each) and one of them ended up throwing up everywhere (and her mum and uncle supplied us with it lol) not really interesting just wanted to say lol

Lizzie523 · 25/07/2021 02:48

Too young. I was allowed nearer 16, which was fine.

1forAll74 · 25/07/2021 03:09

NO, much too young. But I know youngies sneak this kind of drink in sometimes.

rainbowfairylights · 25/07/2021 03:33

I would absolutely say no but I'm surprised that lots of people on here think it's unusual for kids as young as 13 to be given things like wkd by their parents. Certainly when I was around that age, most of my year group were out drinking on the weekends. And I'm only in my mid twenties. Sad but true!

Laserbird16 · 25/07/2021 03:36

No covers it I think. And a good chat on why underage drinking is a bad choice

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