15 year old wants her boyfriend to stay over?

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DD has been seeing her 15 yr old boyfriend for 2 months - it is her first relationship and they are "all in" the pair of them head over heels!

He is a lovely boy and hangs out at my house all weekend and a couple of nights after school if they have time .

My DD is trying to convince me it's the norm amongst others her age that are dating to have their boyfriend stay over and sleep in their beds.

I feel really uncomfortable with this and am not ready to allow this. Me and DD have an open relationship and she has told me that she will wait at least 6 months and until she is over 16 years old to take her relationship further. She said her and her boyfriend have talked about it and they want to wait.

I just feel that allowing him to stay over is encouraging intimacy too soon.

They have a party to go to 20 miles away on Saturday night and will be getting an Taxi home around 2am and as he lives a further 5 miles away she wants him to stay the night so he doesn't have to travel onwards in the taxi alone. I have said he can stay downstairs on the sofa - DD feels I'm being completely unreasonable and has now said it is a trust thing and has told me I clearly don't trust her!

I am meeting her halfway yet being made to feel like I'm totally out of order.

Can anyone else share what their house rules are on this?
Thx

Have you reminded her that she is underage and if it does happen he can be prosecuted? You're protecting them both!
My parents didn't let me have boyfriends stay until I'd left home and lived with him (at 23!)

I was allowed to stay at a boyfriend's house on New Year's Eve when I was 17 and a half, my mum spoke to his mum (embarrassing at the time), they made an agreement, both were very stern and he was very firmly on the sofa and I was in his room. Where he stayed all night actually. We had a lovely evening out. No sex lol!

What a full circle lemming.

I am sure that on the other side, all too many people are saying yes, sleep with your boyfriend as soon as you can. Media of all kinds is also telling her this.

Probably girl's at her DD's school already are sleeping with their boyfriends. Some may already have had several boyfriends already they have slept with.

I let my DDs boyfriend stay over in her bed when she was 15 but she was only a few months off of 16, it was Christmas Day, they'd been together almost 2 years already and are still together now.

I've always been pretty relaxed and trusting with all my kids but never would I allow a sharing bed sleepover with someone they'd only been with 2 months.

Ha ha ha ha ha. No.

I have boys of 17 and 15. No way is bed sharing ok. They're too young and the relationship is too new. To be honest I'll be putting girlfriends in the spare room even when my kids are at uni, though I will turn a blind eye at corridor creeping then. Seventeen and after six months? Maybe. Fifteen and after two months? No way.

She's underage- so the answer should be no.

What a full circle lemming

I make no judgement regarding the OP'S question, merely about the logic.

We had similar recently and spoke to the boyfriends parents. Approached it from the angle of "look, we're not comfortable with this but they're both underage, this is the suggestion and what is your take on it?" The boyfriends mum said a very swift "no way! Not on our watch" that might be an option; I get the feeling that all teenagers will try it on at times and think we've never tried the same before and therefore aren't wise to it!