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penis size

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cariboo · 23/08/2016 18:19

My ds has a very, very small willy. He's terribly worried about it - he thinks it's tiny - but I told him he's fine, once he hits puberty (he's just had his 13th birthday), it will grow.

But will it?

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DixieNormas · 04/09/2016 14:45

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DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 04/09/2016 15:36

It develops at the same time as erections

I'm not sure what you mean by that as boys can and do have erections right from tiny babies.

MammouthTask · 04/09/2016 15:51

Ds has just turned 13 and in the last 6 months only has really puberty. Growth in all directions, and yes that included his penis as well as acquiring hair down there (and under arm).
When ds had his growth spurt, it's not just the size that changed too but the shape and the colour of his penis. Basically, it moved from the penis if a child to the one of a man.
At which stage is your DC OP?

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cariboo · 04/09/2016 21:10

So many encouraging words! Thanks.

DS is still pre-pubescent - or at least I think so, given that his voice hasn't "broken", he has no evidence of body hair, body odour - but he is getting a bit moody.

He seems to enjoy walking around the house naked, much to my DD's disgust.Grin

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Desmondo2016 · 05/09/2016 21:00

I'm gobsmacked how many of you know so much about your children's genitals. My DS is 11 and I haven't seen him naked, nor had reason to, for years. And am I feel prude for thinking teenagers walking round naked in front of each other after showers is a bit odd too? Am I the only one?

notagiraffe · 05/09/2016 21:11

I'm curious - how on earth do you all know the size of your teenage sons' willies? I haven't seen my DC naked since they were about 8 when they started getting shy and wanting baths in private.

StuffandBother · 05/09/2016 21:19

My 12 year old ds has just used my ensuite shower and has stood drying himself in my bedroom lamenting his lack of pubes! Why on earth would he be self conscious? He's my son.

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 05/09/2016 21:21

Quite stuff

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 05/09/2016 21:22

Why is it odd walking round in your own home after a shower?Confused

dontpokethebear · 05/09/2016 21:23

Agree about seeing ds willy. He has been intensely private from about 8 (not encouraged by us, we're very open!).

In regards to your sons weight, ds1 got very chunky pre-puberty. Having been quite slim before hand, it was very obvious that he was piling on weight. Within a year he hit puberty and slimmed right out (and grew about a foot and a half!).

I think at this stage, try not to worry too much. Puberty will definitely make it bigger to an extent. Obviously your dd comments aren't helpful, but surely that's the sort things siblings say to annoy/upset each other? You could explain that to him?

CoconutAndVanilla · 05/09/2016 21:34

Desmondo2016 You're not the only one, my DS is 6 and he is now at the "I don't want you to see..." stage!

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 05/09/2016 21:59

Is it really a surprise that some kids/people are more private than others?

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cariboo · 06/09/2016 08:26

My DD(16), on the other hand, is intensely private - always has been - and will not let ANYONE see her naked.

I was so pleased the other day when she told me that she loves her body; that she wouldn't change anything about herself. Refreshing to hear that from a teenager.

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Oblomov16 · 06/09/2016 10:52

I can't see what good taking him to the GP does. Few willy's are actually classed as micro penis. And even if it is, it's not like you pop a pill and it grows another 3 inches.
Many boys will be small. Horrible isn't it. But it's not like there is an easy solution.

BombadierFritz · 06/09/2016 14:59

thats the idea though oblamov, its sometimes a failure to start puberty/delayed puberty and they kickstart it with hormones which does make it grow. that would be after say age 14 or 15 though. I wouldnt think op has to worry about that. its sad that some posts on here have been dismissive of concerns. I would be just as worried about a daughter who had no signs of breast buds by age 13 for example.

MammouthTask · 06/09/2016 15:11

The thing is, a lot of boys will just start hitting puberty at 13yo ,if not later, unlike girls who start puberty earlier.
So no buds at all at 13yo on a girl might warrant a question. But a small 13yo boy who hasn't started his growth spur and is still very much 'a boy' rather than a teenager is a different issue.
Some boys don't start puberty until they are 14+yo

re knowing my dc penis size? ds2 just doesn't care at all. I see him naked on a regular basis. he is 11yo.
ds1 tells me regularly he doesn't want me to see him naked, he doesn't want to see me naked blabla BUT moves around naked in the house, would go from the bathroom to the bedroom vaguely holding a towel in front of him and then stay on the landing watching something (eg a bit of TV he can catch from the stairs Hmm) or would ask me to help him with xx with he is in the shower/bath. He has just turned 13yo.

BombadierFritz · 06/09/2016 16:01

yes, its 13 for a girl, 14 for a boy for delayed puberty if no signs of secondary sex maturation ie breast buds or increase in testicle size. I think the nhs would make you wait til 15 for boys before investigating (guess). Its pretty rare but there is treatment, thats all I meant really

RobertBell1 · 19/03/2018 12:07

Hi, I happen to have been born 2 months premature and am now 196cm tall however my penis is only 2.5cm long flaccid and 10cm long erect. My penis was always small and never grew during puberty yet as I've stated I definitely did. I also have fathered 3 children so there were no issues with fertility.

turnipfarmers · 27/03/2018 12:55

Am I alone in thinking this thread is inappropriate ?

No. It's totally inappropriate.

The Daily Fail are probably rubbing their hands in glee if not their allegedly small penises

SilverHamer · 06/09/2019 07:13

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WilkosWanderer · 06/09/2019 07:26

Well honey you're obviously a 'special guy' @SilverHamer Hmm

BabyST · 06/09/2019 16:04

My 20 year old son when he was 12-15 had a very small penis and testicals. Slow onset of puberty along with little public hair and over all body hair. All through the years once a year they would check him and finally at 19 ultrasound his testies to find they are approx the size of a 13 year old so now his Klinefelter Syndrome along with penis size is not normal for a 20 year old. Might be worth baring it in mind. I am aware this post is from 2016.

cdtaylornats · 06/09/2019 17:58

As a friend of mine said, her boyfriends small penis looked like it would be a deal breaker, then he licked his earlobe.

soutgdub33 · 29/09/2019 22:23

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Lisa2019GB · 06/10/2019 21:53

I can completely understand your concern for him, as unfortunately these days due to social media etc. teenagers are becoming increasingly self-conscious about these things.

He has only turned 13, so puberty is still within a grasp at this time. You cannot be certain of what size it will be until this process has happened.

One of my boys was always quite small which I found strange and then unfortunately, now 17, I had the dreaded moment of walking into the unlocked bathroom, which I can say for your reassurance has caught-up. This proves that pre-puberty size doesn't mean anything.

Don't let this worry you, I am sure everything will work out fine x

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