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penis size

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cariboo · 23/08/2016 18:19

My ds has a very, very small willy. He's terribly worried about it - he thinks it's tiny - but I told him he's fine, once he hits puberty (he's just had his 13th birthday), it will grow.

But will it?

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musicposy · 24/08/2016 00:25

I too was a bit sad over the way the penetration man thread went. I thought that as a woman, I'd think it appalling if a bunch of men started a thread laughing about how they dumped women because of their small breasts or cellulite - it's no different.

I'm sure not everyone thinks that way. I'm sure that there are plenty of men out there with less than ideally sized or shaped members in happy fulfilling relationships, with good sex lives. In fact, I'd say I know for certain. Smile Try not to worry about your son. Reassure him that even if it stays really small, the right person will see beyond that, and it'll be a good way to weed out the wrong ones early on.

DiegeticMuch · 26/08/2016 18:24

Girlfriends who are into him won't care. They won't regard it as important.

It doesn't seem to have put women such as Katy Perry and Kate Moss off Russell Brand!

GeneralBobbit · 26/08/2016 18:29

I don't understand Confused

I thought Russell Brand was supposed to be generous ? Has he come out and said he has a tiny wiener then?

VoyageOfDad · 26/08/2016 18:45

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Northernparent68 · 27/08/2016 18:49

Am I alone in thinking this thread is inappropriate ?

AverageGayLad · 27/08/2016 18:52

I used to be the same, just let me tell you that it will certainly grow during puberty Grin I assume he knows some men are a LOT smaller when they're not erect? And then when it's needed it gets plenty big enough.

Cel982 · 27/08/2016 18:56

There's really no need to worry at this stage, penis size changes massively during puberty. If he actually had micropenis it would almost definitely have been picked up at birth.

BombadierFritz · 27/08/2016 18:57

Have you googled (carefully) pubertal development of penis? I have a similarly concerned teen and was going to wait til 14 as no scrotal development either but he is 13 and 11 months and that's just started. So I guess the rest will follow. He had a difficult childhood health wise which is why I was worried about delayed puberty

iMatter · 27/08/2016 19:07

He must be comfortable with the size if he's happy for you to see it. I haven't seen my 11 year old's for about 2 years!

JustDanceAddict · 27/08/2016 21:55

Surely he hadn't gone through puberty yet so I'm sure that makes a difference. My son is 12 and still has a boy's willy as he's not quite going through puberty yet.

JinkxMonsoon · 29/08/2016 20:16

Thought I'd share this article from the New York Times I came across today. Sounds like it's normal (and definitely not inappropriate) for parents to have worries:

nyti.ms/2c2CEVP

jellybeans · 01/09/2016 01:41

Growth doesn't happen for many boys until actual puberty so I really wouldn't worry yet. Chances are very good that all will be fine!!

ThisUsernameIsAvailable · 01/09/2016 02:02

I have no idea what size my teenagers penis is Confused

AverageGayLad · 01/09/2016 03:29

I thought this thread was deleted Confused

PenelopeFlintstone · 01/09/2016 03:36

I also think that it will probably be fine. My son recently told me he had a lump in his breast. I googled it and it is very common in a certain stage of puberty and during that stage the penis also grows in length. Your son has probably not hit this stage yet. My son is nearly 14, looks quite normal but hasn't. Your son is only 12 so he possibly hasn't either. Google the different stages of puberty.

Elroya1 · 01/09/2016 07:22

I really do not think it is that much of a problem. What I wonder is why he is so worried to begin with? Is that what he is talking about with his classmates? Like in what world is penis size alone the only important thing in relationships ? I understand that he is not viewing it this way, because he likely doesn't have the experience, but then that is your role to explain what good healthy relationships are all about.

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cariboo · 03/09/2016 09:06

Why should this thread be deleted? My question, as the OP, was an honest and legitimate one. My child is suffering and I had no idea how to help him. His father and I are divorced, my son would never ask his father about such a thing anyway. A visit to our GP would have been next, had MN not been so supportive and reassuring. A medical checkup would have further humiliated and worried my son (Mummy thinks something's wrong with me!), I wouldn't / couldn't ask my RL friends, I can't Google for information without the risk of being taken for a pedophile... So, tell me, what is wrong with asking my friends on Mumsnet? Of course, some of you are clearly NOT friends...Hmm

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CoconutAndVanilla · 03/09/2016 09:14

Cariboo

I don't think this thread should be deleted, you're asking a genuine question, and yes you are right it would be some what wrong in asking Google the question that you've asked this thread, in answer to your question "some" grow during puberty and "some" don't, I doubt going to the GP is going to help.

ScarlettDarling · 03/09/2016 09:19

I don't see any reason why this thread should be deleted... Am I missing something? Confused

Op my son is 12 and hasn't hit puberty yet. I always thought that penis size pretty much stayed the same throughout childhood until a boy hits puberty? So I don't think it's anything to worry about. Obviously your son is taller and bigger than he was when he was a little boy so his penis will look relatively smaller.

I definitely don't think a doctor visit is needed at this stage. He will be entering puberty soon and all sorts of changes will happen!

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 04/09/2016 00:59

They have a huge growth spurt - in all directions!- from about 13,he has plenty of time yet.

That penatration man thread sounds appaling Hmm

rubbishbin · 04/09/2016 01:13

He's still a child! His body will naturally change through puberty...

As a rule of thumb, boys are usually the same size as their dads...

ivegotdreadfulpmttoday · 04/09/2016 01:20

I was worried about my son's willy as it was much smaller than his younger brother's. Has grown now. Has puberty started?

fairywoods · 04/09/2016 14:08

Don't worry (easier said that done) by his late teens I am sure everything will be fine. It's very common and most boys have small willies which then DO change in a big way through puberty and I would say it's 99% likely that this will happen for your son. Most importantly don't make an issue out of it, I am sure he will be a completely average man size in a few years and you will be laughing about your worries. I think because we are women and havn't gone through this ourselves it's difficult to imagine things changing quite so much but remember how much your own body developed and changed from a young girl into a woman!

Wallywobbles · 04/09/2016 14:31

DP said his stopped growing about 16. It develops at the same time as erections. Basically he said that it evolves at the same time as you grow. So it stops when you stop growing. But the start of real growth is around erections.

Also that some are really small in their non-erect state in adults. This is from communal showering so not much experience in erect state.

moomoo222 · 04/09/2016 14:42

I thought that on the whole boys ended up with willies a similar size to their dads? But PP's are right - there is some time yet before you need to worry and saying/doing anything about it IRL will likely give him a complex. As parents the stuff we can find to worry about is never ending!

Also am Confused as to why this should be deleted - surely mumsnet is exactly the place where you can ask questions like this, why not?