Found DS Stash

[Plarasa]

I've recently found my DS stash in his room. He had just under an ounce of weed, 5 tabs of LSD, Fags and a Vape. I've completely lost my shit with him over the eCig alone but he just doesn't seem to care. What should I do?

I would not be ringing the police on my son for this either, OP.

For those who would not call the police, what would it take for you to ever call the police on your son. Obviously not dealing drugs. How would you feel if your son or daughter died from taking these drugs. Would you feel different then and want the dealer arrested?

Be very careful if you dispose of it. He may not have paid for it yet. You don't want trouble at your door.

Oh dear. I'm at work at the moment but will try and formulate a useful comment when I get back. Immediate things that spring to mind:

1. does he owe any dealers any money?
2. how many phones does he have access to?
3. maybe change Internet use to supervised only for the mean time?

Op there is drugs and alcohol support services in most area.

You can access these via your GP.

I'm so sorry I really do understand how stressful, worrying and upsetting this is. I'm sure you're feeling really out of your depth but please remember he's not the victim here he's dealing in drugs, using the dark web and paying in Bitcoin? At fifteen? You won't call the police you won't ground him and you won't ban the Internet? I think you definitely need to ask someone or a relevant agency as other posters have suggested to help you in rl. Your job is to parent not pander and it's essential for other people's dc wellbeing that you start to do so.

I reported my 14 year old for having drugs. He was caught at school dealing. He got community service. It also made him realise he needed new friends and that dad had given him too much freedom. Year later he lives with me full time and is a reformed son. I would rather he had been in trouble with the police as a minor that bigger trouble further down he line.

As a bare minimum you need to stop his internet usage - change the wifi password perhaps.

Obviously I don't know your son, but I'm not sure I agree with other posters that he has been pressured.

That conviction will stay on his record for ever though if he ever needs a DBS check.

Not true, it's not a schedule 1 offence so after so many years it is spent regardless of level of DBS.

Your son could get in bother with other dealers if he owes them money. They don't mess around so you need to try and find out.

You really need to make sure he cannot continue with the dealing if you are not going to report him. What if a school friend (or anyone) dies next week because he dealt drugs and you could have stopped it. Imagine if the scenario was reversed and your son died and a friend's mum knew and didn't report it.

Worst case scenario is rare but it does happen. He is dealing class A drugs, this is serious. I can't believe you're angry about the vape- that's the least of your worries.

There's a guide here about what is filtered out of a DBS check. The rules changed in 2013 so it's not quite every conviction, caution and police note on you ever, as it used to be with CRB (I had a caution for criminal damage when I was 15 that showed up on mine in my late 30's).

There is a List of offences that will never be filtered from a DBS certificate. On that list is:

Drugs (Prevention and Misuse) Act 1964, s1 - Supplying dangerous drugs

So yes, this could be on OP's DS's record forever.

Have you a relative you could send him to stay with for the rest of the summer?...id be doing that.plus moving him to another school..if nessessary moving house ,at the least I'd be getting him away from the area.

You're covering up for a drug dealer and posting it on a public forum. The police can get your details from Mumsnet...

your son is committing a serious crime. Not only that, he is contributing to other people doing dangerous and potentially life destroying things.

I think this is beyond something you can deal with your self and that you have to call the police. If he was taking drugs that's one thing, but this is dealing. It's very serious. You need to protect yourself.

Wow that's helpful Tiggy. Yes let's scare the OP from seeking advice

Don't worry OP, most police forces have enough known dealers to fill their time without having to go super-sleuth to catch a 15 y/o with 5 tabs and an ounce of weed just on the offchance they live in their area.

of course the police can't get her details from here, what a ridiculous thing to say

One way or another, this is likely to come out. It's very rare that teen dealers don't get caught eventually.

Either, he'll piss off his supplier and get a beating which will end up with him being questioned by the police as a victim, or he'll sell to someone who gets caught in possession by their parents who then rat him out, or he'll inadvertently sell to a test purchaser - of course, if that's over the web, it'll be the person on the broadband contract who will be named on the arrest and search warrant.

15 is old enough to face consequences and yes, I would call the police on a child who I knew had done this.

I'm thinking she might want her posts deleted if not the thread. And of course the police could get her details, or the site would be helping a criminal too.