14 yo old DD had sex

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Found out my 14 yo DD has had sex with her boyfriend. She was only going out with him for a month.

A friend she told told her mum who text me. So I've spoken to my daughter who admitted it. They were careful ( thank god). They broke up a week later.

I have been open and honest with my daughters about sex, consent, self respect and what have you.

I'm upset and angry about it, whether that's right or wrong. She's too young for all this. I'm a complete fucking idiot and trusted her when she said nothing like that was going on. Although I appreciate she's hardly going to tell me.

What do I do? It's happened and that's it. We've just had a big row and she's upset and mortified.

If you get off with women in their 20s and early 30s as I have, they are often into porn and porn style sex.

Hmmm, sounds like a chicken and egg type problem to me Jobseekernightmare.

Perhaps you should try focussing on finding a single suitable partner for yourself rather than "getting off" with a series of young women.