My DS 14 has just come back from staying with his dad in Europe. His dad gave him money towards an Xbox. DS assumes I will pay the balance. For Xmas I really don't go OTT but I did get him a new hairdryer (he's always using mine), an electric shaver (he needs one) and several other smaller presents - clothes, after shave etc.
In the car on the way back from the airport he asked me to order the Xbox when I got home. I said I would need to put the money his dad gave him into my account first or I may go overdrawn. I also asked him what jobs he was going to do to pay for the balance. He then went into one and said he didn't like any of my gifts and basically said I was cheap. I reminded him thT I had bought him an iPhone for his birthday and he basically sneered and said that was then.
When we got home he went straight upstairs for a while then came down and threw the envelope of money on the side and said, there's the money, when will you order it. I explained again I couldn't do it today and he ranted about how I expected him to be grateful about everything I did for him. At this point I said unless he could speak to me properly I wasn't willing to have this conversation. He continued to be rude and I lost it and told him to sod off upstairs . . Yes I should have remained calm but I was shaking. He has never spoken to me like that and I really don't know what to do.
I would appreciate some advice and support.
Thanks so much
LaLa