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What will your teenagers agree to do with you in the hols?

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ifonly4 · 26/06/2015 14:35

Mine isn't too bad, but just wondering what others are willing to do with their parents. Mine will shop with me (probably as she'll get something and cake in a café), camping (loves it), bowling and the odd game at home.

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HormonalHeap · 26/06/2015 16:51

How old is your teen? Mine is 17 and I don't expect to see her at all in the hols, it's all about her friends now.

Sparklingbrook · 26/06/2015 17:03

Nothing. Mine are 13 and nearly 16.

DS2 will be out with his mates all day and DS1 will be in his room running his online empire over the PS4 or if I get my way at a summer job.

Haven't broached the subject of all going away on holiday yet but I am guessing the response will be lukewarm.

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TheFirstOfHerName · 26/06/2015 17:23

Netflix if it's something they want to watch
Any swimming pool with waterslides
Cinema if they want to see the film
Theme park
Anything that involves them getting fed

LaurieFairyCake · 26/06/2015 17:25

Anything I ask, they're pretty sociable

More so if there's cake involved.

sunbathe · 26/06/2015 17:32

Cinema, swimming, badminton, TV, wii games, going for a meal or for a day out. Pretty much anything, I suppose.

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BackforGood · 26/06/2015 17:47

My older two "let" me take them out for lunch today Grin

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 26/06/2015 20:46

Cook
Have coffee
Watch crap telly
Play badminton/table tennis
Go on holiday
Shop
Cinema
Meet up with other families with teens

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 26/06/2015 20:47

Definitely anything involving foodWink

nooka · 26/06/2015 20:55

dd's pretty sociable so if she's not got anything going on she's happy to hang out with me and dh. We enjoy lots of the same TV shows, books, films and music, so plenty to talk about. ds would like in an ideal world to be permanently hooked up to his PC. He only tends to emerge for food or after much nagging to do his chores. I'm hoping that the summer camp we volunteered him to help with will take him for a few weeks.

Travelledtheworld · 26/06/2015 22:57

I asked mine where they would like to go on holiday and they both said "Iceland". So that's where we will be going for some family bonding and to go whale watching, climb a volcano and sit in hot springs.
Grin

Apart from that the 15 year old will probably not leave the house for the entire summer, and the 17 year old will be quite happy to go shopping with me and for me to drive her to the next town where she has a summer job.

HormonalHeap · 27/06/2015 10:52

Travelledtheworld we are taking my ds 15 to Vancouver and LA. If we didn't take him away, his ample derrière would not elevate an inch from his Xbox chair. By removing him from his dungeon I'm hoping to get a year's supply of vit D on his skin. You are lucky your dd will go shopping with you. My Dd 17 will be away with friends.. she just doesn't want to be away with us anymoreSad

bigbluebus · 27/06/2015 16:48

Practically nothing now unless he needs my debit card using Grin so that means the occasional shopping trip to the outlet village and possibly the occasional lunch out.
Other than that he stays in his cave bedroom most of the time playing on gadgets although he is coming on holiday with us - but only because we're going to Venice and that is somewhere he has wanted to go for a number of years.

DelphiniumBlue · 27/06/2015 16:58

ds14 & 20 will come to cinema, theatre, occasional art gallery/exhibition if its related to an area of study and lunch out is involved. We watch some TV/ films together, and sometimes play cards/board games. Nor!mally eat together.
Am only prepared to take Ds14 on holiday this year, due to previous ungrateful and moaning behaviour from elder 2 last year. Ds14 is happy to come with us, probably because his cousins will be there for company.

SecretSquirrels · 27/06/2015 17:13

Anything food related. They love any kind of holiday or travel. Gym, badminton, trashy tv.
I would like to take them shopping but I think that would be beyond the pale.
Otherwise they live in their gloomy caves.

IHaveBrilloHair · 27/06/2015 17:17

Any meal out, anything which involves her friends/bf.
Other than that she's not interested, which I don't really mind.

IHaveBrilloHair · 27/06/2015 17:19

We aren't going on holiday until October but she is going sailing for a week with Young Carers, then a few nights at Young Carers festival.
She may go and stay with my friend and her dd's, and then friend's dd's will come here.

RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie · 27/06/2015 17:23

One of mine is 20 now, so no longer a teen. D2 is 18. They are happy to go out for lunch/dinner with us, and we're having two short breaks with them over the summer.

D1 likes a mooch around the shops and a coffee/cake. D2 will go shopping if she needs something only, but does like going out for cake in the park, or for breakfast. Basically, if food is likely to be on offer, they're usually up for it.

They still like the odd board game with us, but I have to beg more nowadays!

Heyho111 · 27/06/2015 18:41

Watch TV and a DVD. Take aways. Odd meal. Shopping. BBQ's.
Being driven to meet mates.
That's fine by me. It's as it should be.

starfish4 · 29/06/2015 11:42

Mine is 14. She enjoys being with friends, but equally enjoys being at home reading, doing art and playing her musical instruments (she's not interested in tv and technology (other than chatting with her friends on her ipad - uses it mainly for research), so I'm not too worried if she's at home.

Things she will readily agree to are shopping, anything to do with food, anything a friend can come along to, playing games, cycling, camping, frizbee, swingball. If she isn't going out for a few days, I often suggest a short walk which most of the time she'll do. Don't think she loves doing it, but she'll come along without any objections if I say we're seeing one of her Grannys (even though they both chat constantly and moan!).

Mumblechum1 · 29/06/2015 12:10

Mine's 20 now so not a teenager, but after years of never wanting to be seen in public with me over the holidays is letting me take him away for a few days next week - I've told him he can choose, thinking he'd say Vegas or somewhere mad but he's chosen Devon Grin

He'll be taking up birdwatching and wearing cardis soon

JustDanceAddict · 29/06/2015 13:26

Mine will be 13 next week and def shopping - she needs some new stuff (as ever!) inc bras so needs me for that one.

I bought kids' week tickets to Wicked so we will all go to the theatre in August. This part of her bday present and she's wanted to see if for ages.
She'd prob come to see a film with us as a family, but also goes with friends. Depends on the film - if it's a teen or kids' film she can go with her friends.
They also like theme parks, I don't, but at this age they still need to be taken.
We are going on holiday for 2 weeks where there are kids of similar ages, the week before she is doing her drama club workshop for a week so it's not too arduous. She does a lot of art stuff at home too so can occupy herself quite well.
I would rather she was with friends than hanging out with me, at that age they shouldn't be relying on parents for their social lives, but I accept that in the holidays, some friends are away at different times and so it can end up that she could be the only one around when we get back as we tend to go away first 2 weeks in August.

mathanxiety · 30/06/2015 03:41

Shopping, esp charity shop trawling, watching reality TV, and they like our local art museum so we will go there twice or three times on their free day when DD4's summer activity is over. DD3 appreciates this much more than DD4 but I buy a snack so she suffers through it. And playing tennis and baking (DD4 but not DD3).

DD4 doesn't know it yet but I will be sitting down with her and going over a lot of maths over the coming weeks, which is her weakest subject -- she will have no choice but to grit her teeth and make the most of it.

Leeds2 · 30/06/2015 18:07

My 17 year old is coming on holiday with us. Her boyfriend is coming too.

She will come with me and her dad on a whistle stop tour of US universities (5 days).

She is away with school for 3 weeks, and on a course for two weeks, so will be away from home for five of the weeks.

She and I will definitely go up to London for afternoon tea at least once, and we will probably have lunch out several times too.

She will spend time with her dad doing driving practice!