My son has never ever had any of his friends stay the night on a sleepover, even when he was small, unlike his his younger brother. He has now asked if he can have someone over, and the problem I have is that I have just started to suspect that the friend that he is talking about is more than just a friend.
I wanted to say no, but how could I without telling him why, especially when his little brother has had quite a few sleepovers? I told him I would think about it, which he excepted without arguement.
I have since discussed this with his Dad (my ex) and when I told him of my suspicions about the exact nature of our Sons relationship with his friend..... he laughed and told me that I was blind, and that he is amazed that I've only just started to suspect when this boy has been my sons boyfriend for some time, and that our son has told him so. Why has he not told me? I have asked my ex to talk to our son about this sleepover as they are very close, and the boy has had no problem in the past talking to his Dad about this kind of stuff, his sexuality etc etc. He does not talk to me about this side of his life, and I have to admit that this upsets me, and I wish that we could have talked about stuff in the past the same way he talks to his Dad, but when I have tried it does not work. He is a beautiful kid, and we are very close in all other ways.
His Dad says that we should trust him, and that they are most likely doing 'stuff' together already, and that he would rather he was doing that 'stuff' somewhere he is safe.
I just cannot be so flippant about this, and I can't deny that I am bothered by it.